It is not about ME. When I went into this relationship, it was about the two of us becoming one, until one of us dies. I went into this relationship healthy, knowing what I wanted, etc. and expected the same from him. He and I had plenty of time to share with each other certain things that we felt to be important to share prior to getting married. Plus, I have children and he knew that this was not something I took lightly. My kids mean the world to me.
There were a few things about my past that I was not thrilled about sharing but felt that if he and I were going to have a healthy relationship, these were things that needed to be out in the open before putting making those vows. IMO, this issue most definitely should have come out before he and I got married. Seriously, we have only been married 11 months and all of a sudden this comes out last week.
I can deal with helping him through it but I will tell you this, if I were to find out later down the line that he is homosexual, YOU BET I'M GONNA BE TICKED. I came into this relationship healthy and most definitely heterosexual (not knocking on those of you who are) and I did come into this with certain expections and I could more than likely say the #1 thing would be that I wouldn't have to worry about his sexual orientation.
As far as the first part of your reply, I honestly don't know what you are getting at with that. The person means so much to me if he's unhappy? I really am not sure what you mean by that.
If you are suggesting that I don't want him to be happy, sure I do. But what about my happiness? If he has been dishonest with me, doesn't exactly make him concerned with my feelings too much, huh?