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#63349 - 09/17/02 09:15 AM I hate this life...very frustrated
AMiNUTS Offline
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Registered: 06/13/02
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HI all,

Things are not getting better and as I have said in previous posts, I think I am done with this marriage. Since he has taken a pretty bad position and attitude in this it is making it easier to quit. I have thought about splitting finances and moving out of the bedroom (need a bed though) and hoping that he can be reasonale about it (don't think he will). I just don't know how to approach the subject although I did tell him this morning that we need to schedule some time to talk about some decisions that I made. It will probably end up a nasty fight, but I will hope for the best. He is generally adverse to splitting up chores and schedules in general, but I thinkk splitting up finances and deciding on childcare responsibilities is important. I also think that maybe beginning to spend time with the children (without the other parent) might help them get use to single parenting down the road. I will talk to my therapist about the best way for the children, although I know it is going to be so hard for them. I can't imagine the financial nightmare that will take place or either of us affording it on our own. But what I do know is that the stress has been unbearable and I don't think anyone should have to live that way. As all you survivors know, he is very good at separating his emotions from his being. Even this morning after having a little tiff, he starts to sing and pretend to be happy and nothing could be better. This drives me nuts. I want him to feel the pain. Sorry, but I do.

I think he has some one in his life now that softens this reality for him. He is now going to the gym everyday this week. Hmmm...what do we think is going on???? Well, I guess that is really not my problem or business anymore. Although it was probably never my problem as all of you have told me.

It seems that I need to look for a new community for those going through a divorce as this wonderful group may no longer be appropriate. You all have been wonderful, insightful, and honest. I appreciate all that you have said.

Be well.
AMiNUTS


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#63350 - 09/17/02 01:47 PM Re: I hate this life...very frustrated
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AMiNUTS
it's a shame it's come to this, but be certain of one thing - you've tried. And for that feel proud.

If it's over then think of yourself, don't let yourself become a victim. It aint nice.

Be strong, and dont be a stranger
Lloydy \:\)

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