Upate on couple therapy -
Seemed to go well - my BF did mention fairly early on in the session that he was "abused" (didnt say "sexual" abuse though) by someone in his past.. the counsellor did mention that this can and often is a significant stressor on a relationship (duh!)
It was really tough for me to be there - I guess I just had ideals of love being "wonderful and great and amazing" and here we are, not even engaged sitting in a counsellor's office pouring out our wounded hearts...
My BF does remain optimistic that this could help us.. so I guess that's a good sign. He did mention that one of his major problems in a relationship is feeling scared all the time.. so hopefully this will help him!