I am not married but I have been dating the same man for four years now, and I have known him all his life. He and I both we SA as childrn. For the past for years we have not had a "physcial" relationship of ANYKIND. I have two theories on this but don't know where to go to get help. So I am just going to put it out there and see what ya'll say.
1) I asked him point blank once if the reason he did not want a "physical" involvment with me was because of what happened to him. He got mad. He wouldn't speak or look at me for the rest of the evening. It was like I had poured salt on a weeping sore.
2) If I try to hold his hand, get a hug/kiss he pulls away from me. I ask him why---you are not suppsosed to do those thing before you are married. He grew up Seventh-Day Advantist where I am southern Baptist. So I don't how much of it is religion based.
3) He says I push too much. And I will be honest.....I am horny. I would like some action, I am 27 years old, I also want a family. All he can say is wait. How much longer am I going to have to wait?
I feel that I have came through my ordeal, mostly, I still don't like to be alone with older men, I like to have cyber sex, and look at porno sites, but "fuzzy wuzzy" knows. I tell him this to try to make him jealous. That is why I do it.
Is there anything anyone could tell me?