It was hard for me to tell my wife about my abuse. I was afraid she would want to know more than I was ready to tell. I've known about my abuse for a week. I have ups and downs. I wonder if I should have told her & I'm dealing with a flood of emotions.
Don't overlook the fact that your husband may be trying to put you at a distance so he can deal with what is going on.
I know from my own experience that my wife can get in a very emotional state over my emotional state. When she does I push her away because she is makeing my condition worse.
Don't give up on him.
Get him online.
"Knowledge itself is power" Francis Bacon