If you would please read this, tell me if you think I might be right, and offer suggestions for what to do!
I'm 34, he's 42, married for almost 10 years, dated for 2 yrs before that. We have 2 daughters.
1.During dating he wasn't super interested in s*x, but seemed "normal" (whatever that is!). In marriage, s*x became less & less frequent, at his desire, not mine. By less frequent, I mean about two to six times per YEAR. When we finally do, it seems "normal" - again, whatever "normal" is. He usually apologizes that it's been so long, promises to be better in the future.
2.He generally represses feelings and emotions. He's difficult to "read." He's not very sensitive to social nuances, either. He's squeamish about body functions (s*x, bathroom stuff, and oh my, when I had babies, that almost undid him!). Now, he's also squeamish about foods, too, so this may be totally unrelated.
3.He dislikes being touched. If I sit next to him and rest a hand on his thigh, he'll wait a few minutes, squeeze my hand and put it back in my own lap. He pushes away from hugs after just a second or two, does not tolerate much touching or cuddling from the kids.
4.(Okay, this is sort of long, but stick with me). Recently something came out in the news about a guy charged with a crime after he had confessed it to people in his church. My husband seemed genuinely surprized that the church contacted authorities and said "I'm surprized they didn't just pray for him." I asked him a couple of questions and he got really agitated and brought up a case where a whole church knew about and protected a pastor who was perpetrating SA. I don't know if he was refering to a case in the news (heaven knows there are plenty), or maybe, just maybe, if it was a situation he himself had been in, know what I mean? I am a Christian and enjoy active involvement with a church and a Bible Study. He is very distrustful of churches and pastors.
So, it just sort of came to me that maybe all of this fit together. What do you think?
Thanks in advance for your help!