he has said that he wants to move forward
I heard this from my boyfriend right after he disclosed to me too-- and it meant two different things.
First it meant that he realized he was not in a good place, that he needed to make some changes in his behavior and thoughts, and even if he wasn't sure how all the pieces fit together, he thought that the place he was stuck in had something to do with his CSA. He describes it as something just "clicking" in his head-- all of the sudden he didn't WANT to drive dangerously, or tell lies, or neglect his health. He did need some encouragement, but not in the form of being reminded or nagged-- mostly he just wanted me to notice when he did it for himself.
The second thing it meant was, he wanted to stop thinking about his abuse and get on with life as usual. After he disclosed to me, I could think of little else at first-- but he'd already been thinking and worrying about it for weeks! He was relieved and worn out after talking to me, and also worried that my view of him would change. It was very important to him that we spend a lot of time away from heavy conversation. Probably the best and most important support I gave him during this time was just being the same loving, fun person I'd been before.
It took him quite a while to get into therapy, but he did it by himself, for himself-- with a few kicks in the butt from me
But really, he has done a lot of healing very quickly, and I'm convinced that it's because his healing has been self-directed.
Take care of yourself, Kiara, it's normal for you to have some strong emotions of your own. This board is a good place to work those out.