Why? Why is he doing this? I accept him as he is. Why can't he talk to me? Why strangers? Why won't he come home and let me in to help?
What a mess? I hope he returns soon.
As to why he's gone? then my opinion would be that he's suddenly got all the guilt and shame in the world on his back at the moment.
We carry this with us for so long, I carried mine for 31 years, it's a heavy load.
But it's one we can shed, and place firmly on the shoulders of those that SHOULD carry it - our abusers.
I was so frightened that if I told anyone what happened to me as a boy they would reject me, call me a 'pervert', think that I was sick and leave me.
Telling my wife, the first person I ever told, after 25 years of marriage was the hardest thin I ever did in my whole life.
If he's talking with anyone at the moment, then that's good news. It will unburden some of that load. If you have contact with him just let him know you love him, tell him you BELIEVE him.
It's not going to be easy, for either of you. But things can, and generally do, work out.
Stick around ang get all the support and help you want.