I've never been a father, so I might be talking rubbish ( which wouldn't be anything new :rolleyes: )
Personally I don't like big surprises, and whether that's because of my abuse I can't say with certainty. But I think it might be, I had too many 'surprises' in my life.
Also, the reason we don't have kids is because of me not wanting to have any.
Firstly I was having trouble looking after myself, looking after a child was ( I thought at the time ) out of my league.
Secondly, I didn't trust myself. I kept away from children as much as I possibly could. My suspicions were unfounded, but when I discovered that it was too late.
I hope so much that you and your husband have a wonderful new child.