If there is any way you can get into couples therapy together to work on your marriage, i would suggest it.
It seems to me that you have three things going that need to be taken care of and they are all seperate.
1. Your sanity and safety
2. His sanity and safety and healing
3. Your marriage, its sanity and safety
Sounds like some big orders to me, i sure hope some breakthrough comes soon for all of your sake.
I asked him about this law he spoke of, he said,,, *watch* he then asked the others to share about their lives,,, the others talked of how things were for them, how things worked in their lives,,, and as they believed, it was so.