Melanie and Stephanie...
I:m a normal Survivor who:s recently got ahold of this site, and welcome to both of you as well. This is my first post to the Family Forum...I was wondering to myself what it would be like if I had people like you in my life to support me thru my tough times of recovery, as I have had nearly noone but a therapist (and that:s not quite enough) and recently this site - nobody wants to deal with this stuff. To you both I say You Are Awesome, I mean that sincerely! Running away from your boyfriend should make you ask *What am I running TO?* and in facing life the only place to run is to yourSelf and each other. You could just as easily run to someone who Seems OK, but is in denial about something else or another...at least this guy is brave enough to face things head on. I hope you can see your loving him makes you stronger and hopefully your relationship more intimate. I have no great insight at this time, just encouragement that your strength makes him stronger and gives everybody Hope.
Careful of your Personal Boundaries...see a good book in this sites bookstore called Ghosts in the Bedroom for a good, quick, enlightening strategy for both of you. It:s the slimmest, yet most complete book I can think of. Lew:s books would be good for the survivor if he hasn:t got them already. Congradulations on your decision for strength, you should be proud to be a part both sides of *For better or worse.*.