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#61821 - 09/05/04 08:21 PM Re: my boyfriend is a survivor, any advice?
samantha Offline
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Registered: 09/01/04
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#61822 - 09/13/04 06:37 PM Re: my boyfriend is a survivor, any advice?
melanie99 Offline
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Registered: 08/31/04
Posts: 5
Loc: NC
Yes, I was drunk when i wrote the last one, i have no idea what i was talking about. but i see the replies slowed down considerably!!!!!!!!


#61823 - 09/13/04 06:47 PM Re: my boyfriend is a survivor, any advice?
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
I used to think I was "average looking" - but I seriously underestimated myself!

Maybe - versus the average guy, maybe he is nicer, and better looking,
So your fella must be something special!

Dave ;\) \:D ;\) \:D ;\) \:D :rolleyes:

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#61824 - 09/16/04 03:03 AM Re: my boyfriend is a survivor, any advice?
Bryan Offline

Registered: 07/30/04
Posts: 37
Loc: tokyo
Melanie and Stephanie...
I:m a normal Survivor who:s recently got ahold of this site, and welcome to both of you as well. This is my first post to the Family Forum...I was wondering to myself what it would be like if I had people like you in my life to support me thru my tough times of recovery, as I have had nearly noone but a therapist (and that:s not quite enough) and recently this site - nobody wants to deal with this stuff. To you both I say You Are Awesome, I mean that sincerely! Running away from your boyfriend should make you ask *What am I running TO?* and in facing life the only place to run is to yourSelf and each other. You could just as easily run to someone who Seems OK, but is in denial about something else or least this guy is brave enough to face things head on. I hope you can see your loving him makes you stronger and hopefully your relationship more intimate. I have no great insight at this time, just encouragement that your strength makes him stronger and gives everybody Hope.

Careful of your Personal Boundaries...see a good book in this sites bookstore called Ghosts in the Bedroom for a good, quick, enlightening strategy for both of you. It:s the slimmest, yet most complete book I can think of. Lew:s books would be good for the survivor if he hasn:t got them already. Congradulations on your decision for strength, you should be proud to be a part both sides of *For better or worse.*.

Bryan Beezer

#61825 - 09/19/04 09:25 PM Re: my boyfriend is a survivor, any advice?
SAR Offline
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Registered: 12/07/03
Posts: 3310
Loc: USA
Hey Bryan,

Welcome to Family and Friends. \:\)
you should be proud to be a part both sides of *For better or worse.*.
This is how I think of it too. At least I am getting to experience the real worst and the real best, and as bad as the worst has been, the better is great.

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