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#61531 - 08/14/04 11:12 PM being polite here
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can someone delete my profile please and all my posts, I cant figure out how to get rid of them, I want my profile deleted too. Thanks to most of you, your help is cherished and helped save my life from depression and panick atatcks many times. but as a quote I once heard on here ??????, "How can he miss you if you never go away". I will just leave him, I see the damage I may have dont for him, he wants to be alone, so I guess I should vanish of the face of his exestence, is that what I am to do, anyways, tired of everything.


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#61532 - 08/15/04 05:17 AM Re: being polite here
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Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
I don't know anything about deleting everything here. But I will say, you need to take care of yourself. And part of that is respecting his need for space, because by doing that, you get some of your OWN. You need that. You have been through a trauma here also. YOU need to recover. Take your energy that you are spending on him, that he is not able to accept right now, and turn it to yourself. As for the 'oh I'm just a bother', well, personally I think that is just crap thinking. But my opinion on things is mostly different from other people I guess. Whether you stay here and talk more, accept advice more, or if you just leave, I will wish you well.

Leosha

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#61533 - 08/15/04 10:00 AM Re: being polite here
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Registered: 12/02/03
Posts: 475
Loc: Brooklyn, NY
Angelina - As PAS wrote in her heartbreaking post about the ending of her "relationship" with her first bf - you WILL meet someone else. YOu will never forget *this one* but, in time, you will meet someone who will be capable of lavishing you with the care, comfort, respect, & attention you deserve.

As "partners," it is so tempting to fall into a desperation to "prove ourselves" to our loved ones. But, unfortunately, we can never find redress for our own feelings of inadequacy by going through this painful ritual. Ultimately, our struggle to "love" becomes a struggle for "control." And when we begin getting into this spiral, not only do we lose "control," but we also lose any ability at all to even "influence." In other words, we have lost a friend as well as a lover.

I know my words have been a bit harsh, but believe me, I have certainly "been there!!!!" It has taken me years & years & years to free myself.

I wish you (self) love.

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#61534 - 08/15/04 10:13 AM Re: being polite here
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if any of the moderators or anyone deleted this that can, can you delete my profile and my posts please. Thanks


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#61535 - 08/15/04 02:42 PM Re: being polite here
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Registered: 08/10/04
Posts: 188
Loc: US
Angelina - I understand your wish to disappear. You have been additionally bruised here in your very vulnerable moment. I am sorry about that. Take good care. You sound like you are doing what is good for you! I am proud of you for that! Best wishes.

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#61536 - 08/16/04 06:13 PM Re: being polite here
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Loc: Massachusetts
Angelina,

You belong here. You will ALWAYS belong here, and you'll find you can't "vanish" so easily when people care about you.

Your post sounds dangerously like one a dear friend of mine made before he decided to do something I wished to this day he didn't.

Please, PM me or someone you trust here. I'll be more than happy to keep in touch and find you some help to take care of YOURSELF. YOU matter to me.

I'm always here, sister. Please, take advantage of that. Take care of YOURSELF.

Peace and MUCH love.

Scot

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#61537 - 08/16/04 06:28 PM Re: being polite here
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Scot

I PM'd her she read the message but no response, said much the same thing

ste

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#61538 - 08/17/04 11:21 AM Re: being polite here
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Loc: Massachusetts
Ste,

That she read the message tells me that she's still coming here. This is a good sign.

Angelina,

That you're still coming here tells me something.

I don't give up. That would be a betrayal to me as well as you.

The offer still stands. The care still stands.

Peace and love,

Scot

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#61539 - 08/17/04 11:22 AM Re: being polite here
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Registered: 08/10/04
Posts: 188
Loc: US
You guys are wonderful for caring. I hope Angelina comes back. She has been through so much. Best wishes.

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