A quick update. We've just got back from a short break in France which was lovely and meant we avoided all the easter chocolate,big bonus for our waistlines.
We, he, I continue to do well. We're both having a break from T's for a while and concenrtaing on putting it into practise, oh, except for the couples psychosexual therapist, hmmm I still cringe a bit. It goes a bit like this..
PSTherapist- Right right right, jolly ho, LOVELY to see you both,lets get cracking, lets talk about sex.
US- Okeeey, easy now....
Wedding plans are going a treat and apart from our outfits and a couple of details we're all set!
A really happy little survivor moment passed by when we on holiday.. my partner "D" was having a bit of wobble ie; he got withdrawn and felt a bit disorientated and threatened, (he didn't work out what tiggered him)and I asked him about it and if he was OK etc.. I will treasure the next bit for a long time... he looked over and said, "I'm out of kilter but dont worry, normal business will resumed shortly, then he smiled and winked" My heart just swelled.
I'm not sure if it will come across in this post but this just spoke volumes about his confidence in himself, his conviction in his own ability to get out of a hole and the fact that he feels big and the abuse feels small. Its there and it threatens him but its not bigger than him anymore and it doesn't define him.
I can hardly believe that I'm writing this and it feels hard to remember where I, he, we were 9 - 10 months ago.
I hope if you embarking on this healing journey this might give a little hope. Ten months ago we were in such a dark place. Lifes not perfect and we stil have difficult times but boy am I glad I/we stuck it out!
Love to all