First of all, thank you for being concerned and wanting to help your friend. That says a lot for your character. You can't make him heal though. If he doesn't want to or isn't ready then you can't force healing on him. Maybe he just doesn't know where to start. Actually, he has already taken one of the most important steps. That is to tell someone. There are two things that I would suggest at this stage. One is therapy. There are so many issues to deal with here that it's almost impossible to get through them without professional help. That could be really difficult to get him to do because we, as males, have this "ego" that won't let us reach out for help. We want to fix everything ourselves. It just doesn't work very well in this case. The second thing I would suggest is a book. There are several good ones out there that deal with sexually abused men. This might help you both understand his thoughts and actions a little better. He is not the only man who has experienced abuse (although he may feel that way). A book will help him understand that he is not alone in his pain. Many men have gone through what he has. The book that helped me a lot was "Victims No Longer" by Mike Lew. There are other good ones though (see book section of this site). I hope this helps a little. Just make sure that in your zeal to help your friend that you also take care of yourself and your own needs.