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#61128 - 07/18/04 07:27 PM ? Anyone know a website like this for women ?
jaywho Offline
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Registered: 06/29/04
Posts: 39
Loc: WV
Anyone know of a website for women that is like this one? I've read their reaction to SA is mostly internal. Wanna research further. My husband has a sister, rumor has it she may have also experienced. I wanna know how to talk before I do. ;\) Thanks!


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#61129 - 07/18/04 09:30 PM Re: ? Anyone know a website like this for women ?
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Loc: Right here
http://www.soc-um.org/survivors

It is supposedly a site for women and men. But when I was going there, there were only two men, and maybe 20 women.

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#61130 - 07/18/04 11:46 PM Re: ? Anyone know a website like this for women ?
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Loc: Texas
Hey jaywho,

twhj.com is probably the premeir site. It is mostly women and it is huge. It was where I started on recovery stuff. It also has a lot of other stuff.

A good book is "Allies in Healing" by Laura Davis.

I do not know anything about your situation, but it might not really be your place to start with her. Sometimes that can get a really bad response.


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#61131 - 07/19/04 02:55 AM Re: ? Anyone know a website like this for women ?
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I haven't seen a family/friends community half as active this one on any of the female or mostly female survivors sites I've looked at. Some don't have them at all.

I have seen a few threads on this forum started by folks wanting to know how to talk about the SA of a friend or relative who hasn't disclosed. You might have to go back a bit to find them.

Personally I'm with mr. sunshine on this one... I'd wait for your sister in law to come to you. The more control the survivor has over how he or she deals with her SA, the better.

SAR


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#61132 - 07/19/04 09:29 AM Re: ? Anyone know a website like this for women ?
jaywho Offline
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Registered: 06/29/04
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Loc: WV
Thanks! I will take your advice and let her come to me. I know however that once my husband blows the cover it will all go up in flames!

She was his "mother" being 5 years older she even got him up for school. She doesn't have a great relationship with the brother who did this to my husband either. She took off about 8 years old and lived mostly with a neighbor, (great mom huh) She even to this day calls them mom and dad!

She also has guilt by finding a way out for herself and leaving him there! Always has.

I know this sounds bad but she pretends a lot, has found forgivness in some cruel things . . she is married to a man 30 years older (father figure) drinks all the time. Hey, the best part she is a PA and has 3 other degree's. Really smart but personal life a mess!

This will take her over the top. Just wanted to know how to treat it if she does talk about it.


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#61133 - 07/19/04 09:56 AM Re: ? Anyone know a website like this for women ?
Aden Offline
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Registered: 07/05/04
Posts: 499
No advice comming from me. I'd avoid getting involved to the fullest of my ability. Love your husband. Take care of his needs as best you can. And if the sister-in-law takes a swipe, duck.

I am not trying to be smart or funny. I just don't know what else to do. Good luck!

But if you run into problems, come back here and ask for help. Someone is sure to offer a suggestion.


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