Thanks! I will take your advice and let her come to me. I know however that once my husband blows the cover it will all go up in flames!
She was his "mother" being 5 years older she even got him up for school. She doesn't have a great relationship with the brother who did this to my husband either. She took off about 8 years old and lived mostly with a neighbor, (great mom huh) She even to this day calls them mom and dad!
She also has guilt by finding a way out for herself and leaving him there! Always has.
I know this sounds bad but she pretends a lot, has found forgivness in some cruel things . . she is married to a man 30 years older (father figure) drinks all the time. Hey, the best part she is a PA and has 3 other degree's. Really smart but personal life a mess!
This will take her over the top. Just wanted to know how to treat it if she does talk about it.