EGL: When you do, when the time is right you will know. My husband said he had tried everything else to cover it up. The pain never went away. That was his last hope; nothing else he thought would ever make it better. He is sitting here with me as I type and he said he feels; Releived and finally free!
If you have a relationship the same as my husband with his brother; I would think just as he that you are put on stage at every meeting. NO one else in his family ever knew, had to pretend and keep that going.
I told my husband that his life is still not his. He was living a fantasy . . reality was my pain . . Where was theirs?
I saw it like this: His brother with every meeting see's my husband and notices that he is doing great. Sure my husband wanted that but really?
Why not let that SOB know you are hurt, angry and they F**king ruined your life . . why let them have peace and you have hell? Let'em know what a piece of Sh*t they really are.
Another thing to consider is the reaction: My husband loved the pain he saw in his brother's eyes. He made him feel inferior finally after 25 years! I don't think his brother really actually cared he put my husband through this but now HE is imbarresed, confused, scared who will know and best of all . . he doesn't have the control!
What if his brother would have laughed?
Pretended it didn't happen?
WHO CARES WHAT HE THINKS OR REMEMBERS . . It is all about you and your peace!
It is all about you feeling better, nothing he could say will ever help you . . but the weight on your chest will be lifted!!
I wish you peace and hope that someday you will be able to do this. I heard my husband last night and there was exitment in his voice . . he was so, so, so proud of himself.
This was a big step, he did it and I beleive you can too!!
Will be thinking about you! Jay