Thanks to all of you out there who have posted on my various topics. I read each and everyone of them and will probably read them again and again as I need encouragement.
My husband and I are doing good. Things have calmed down in our lives as far as school and work so that has taken alot of pressure off.
I got up the courage to tell him about this site. I don't know if he has visited it but he knows that I found it. He was not upset and was very receptive and open to talk about things.
He is open to therapy for himself, marital counseling if needed and has even encouraged me to seek out my own therapist to work through my own stuff. (Because face it...we all have our stuff and baggage)
I juggle alot as a wife, mother and student. I also work outside the home at a 40 hour + job. Sometimes I feel smothered under the pressures of multiple responsibilities.
My husband is amazing. I know that I have vented about the frustrating things that occur but I want to take a moment to praise the good things.
Although bad things have happened to my husband he is loving, cosiderate,supportive and treats me like a queen. And I don't just say that to say it...he really is my soul mate.
Although he was initially (before we were married) afraid to become to0 close to me (in fear of being hurt or rejected) once we fell in love he was committed. He's a great husband, friend and father.
I understand (thanks to a few of the posts) that although there are common reactions that people have to SA...not everyone experiences all of them. Just because others have acted out doesn't mean he will. I have to trust in him and believe in the vows that we took. He hasn't been dishonest before and I shouldn't start treating him in a suspicous manner. That's not fair to him.
I pray that everyone on this site is able to find happiness, love, security and peace in their life.
I realized that there are going to be days that are down right miserable but if we look at who we are with and can't imagine being with another...then working through it is worth it.
love to you all