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#60026 - 02/03/06 05:05 PM Bastard #2 is dead
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Now the father is dead - I'm glad, but I have to be the one to tell my b/f about it before some idiot does and believe me, I know just who the idiot will be. I can't let him find out by this moron saying "I'm so sorry," when it's the last thing she means...Just another way for her to create the drama she craves by hurting someone else and then being "surprised" that her words hurt. If I allowed that, my b/f would pretend like everything was fine, I'd know better and have to beat the shit out of her.

Tonight is going to suck!

Trish

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#60027 - 02/03/06 05:10 PM Re: Bastard #2 is dead
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Trish
As they say, "It's a dirty job, but someone's got to do it"

And you're right, it's far better coming from you.

Take care
Dave

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#60028 - 02/03/06 06:13 PM Re: Bastard #2 is dead
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Trish, I wish you strength,
she sounds like a toxic woman,

ste

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#60029 - 02/03/06 07:00 PM Re: Bastard #2 is dead
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Trish,

I think you are spot on here - it should come from you and it will mean a lot when it does.

Stay strong.

Much love,
Larry

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
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This land was made for you and me.
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#60030 - 02/03/06 10:35 PM Re: Bastard #2 is dead
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Registered: 01/04/06
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Loc: Twin Cities, Minnesota
Trish,

Hope things go as well as they can tonight. Take care.

Susan


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#60031 - 02/04/06 01:50 AM Re: Bastard #2 is dead
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Thanks for your support. Things went exactly as I had anticipated a few hours ago. When I told him, he said OK, "two down" and nothing more except concern for me that I was worried about it. Dumb.

It'll take him a while to absorb this just like when I told him his mother died. I know later tonight we'll talk, because we always do on Friday, I'll find out at least a little bit of what's in his head.

He didn't want to go to the wake or funeral and he'll renounce any inheritance that may come his way. His mother had actually left him $5K which he could have claimed when she died, but he didn't want it. All he had to do was ignore the letter. If the father didn't change his will, we can expect a letter in a month or so and then he'll have to formally renounce anything.

I went to the wake for 3 minutes. Call it morbid curiosity I guess. I needed to lay eyes on these people who had made my b/f's life a living hell. I felt nothing while I was there. It was like looking at an insect exhibit at a science museum. Very odd.

The only time I really felt the anger coming up was looking at the pictures they had out. My b/f was in two of them, as a little boy. In one, the parents were sitting on the couch with the two oldest girls hugging them and all were smiling for the camera. My b/f was sitting several feet away in a corner looking at the floor. The other was the whole family with everyone mugging it up except my b/f who was just staring straight ahead.

Had it not been for the images forum here, I would not have laid much significance on the pics - now I know better.

It was an odd night. I won't tell my b/f or anyone but you good people that I went to the wake, that's my dark secret. I just felt I needed to.

ROCK ON.........Trish

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#60032 - 02/04/06 02:21 AM Re: Bastard #2 is dead
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Quote:
In one, the parents were sitting on the couch with the two oldest girls hugging them and all were smiling for the camera. My b/f was sitting several feet away in a corner looking at the floor. The other was the whole family with everyone mugging it up except my b/f who was just staring straight ahead.
For some reason, my boyfriend keeps the equivalent photo in our living room.


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#60033 - 02/05/06 08:01 AM Re: Bastard #2 is dead
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Registered: 02/05/06
Posts: 6
Loc: Washington
I'm waiting for the other shoe to fall here... My husband's mother called me last week to tell me her ex-husbaned, my husband's abuser, is in Jail in California and has been paroled... I remember one emotional night before we married when my husband said he would one day go to Canada and find this person and personally maim him... and the stupid woman actually e-mail her son and TOLD him that this guy has been paroled.

My husband hasn't said anything to me about it yet.

Time gives us wisdom but does not ease the pain we feel for our loved ones.
Does the death bring any closure?

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