Truth to tell, I was never suspcious of her, although I can truly understand those who were.
Perhaps your rationale is spot-on too, Roland, but I still fall back on my first statement. What if she was who she said she was, and nothing more?
People can genuinely want to help those who are hurt. Why would someone come to this site? maybe to understand. Why would anyone try to help people like us? Maybe because they saw someone in pain and empathized, truly and really empathized?
It's easy to misunderstand this. Particularly in the United States, where we have the shadows of Kitty Genovese and the "not my problem, I don't want to get involved" mentality. We have people who'd rather not see we have abused children and healing adults because that means that their children may be at risk, they too may have been abused (or, worse yet, were targeted for abuse and got away for some "Thank you God" reason and will never know, which can be even scarier to someone who wasn't abused), or that there is an abuser living in their neighborhoods/teaching in their schools/caring for their children/THEY might be abusers because they "lust" for the Olsen twins.
We just can't mistrust everyone who comes to this site. Guide them, inform them, counsel them if they're doing something disturbing unconsciously, yes, but not shut them out. We have people who refuse to understand, those we WANT to understand and see what we go through, yet we're the first ones to cast out someone who WANTS to understand and help.
It's the way we are, it's the nature of the Beast, but isn't trusting the first step BACK from recovery?
Isn't this also why we have trained and expert moderators, and isn't this why we should TRUST them, too?
Just a thought, and like you, I don't want to reopen old wounds.
Peace and love,
There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies