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#59472 - 05/01/04 07:28 PM 4,000 - and still going !
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
Well, I've notched up 4,000 posts here at MS since April 2002, and I've seen some wonderful things here since that day.

My own progress for one, this site has allowed me to talk with some truly supportive and understanding people about things that at one time were just horrible memories and thoughts inside my head.
I used it when I first came here as an addition to my therapy, and I would go each Wednesday night and tell Chris, my therapist, about the things I'd discussed here. And he understood that I got a lot from it and encouraged my participation here.

There are still some guys here who were here before me, and that shows that we do a good job here. Surviving is a long term thing and there's no shame in not 'getting over it' in record time.
In fact, I think that what we can do here is go above and beyond Surviving. With the kind of support and friendship we all get here we can find and sustain a lot of the tools that improve our lives way above what we initially dream of. We not only survive, we become better people through greater understanding of ourselves and others.

I looked back through the forum to find my first post, and it's in a topic asking what we would do if we met our abuser(s) face to face.
I had been 'lurking' here for a few days when I saw this topic, and although it was a while after I had seen my main perp the fear and memories brought back by seeing him had affected me so much I lived in fear of it happening again.

I also remember the fear of posting this reply.
But it was nothing compared to the fear of living the rest of my life in the grip of thse bastards.

So I'd like to thank you all for your wonderful support and understanding since I've been here.
You have made a difference, and I can't begin to express how grateful I am for that.

Thank's to you all.

Here's my first post, and the strange thing is I feel exactly the same today about this.;f=1;t=000731

posted April 17, 2002 06:15 PM

The same thing happened to me as well, and it was one of the major triggers in getting some help after 31 years of silence.
I was driving my Land Rover down a quiet, English market town main street when I saw the person who groomed me into 4 years of abuse at a crummy boarding school.
How I didn't drive up the sidewalk and mow the bastard down is one of life's mysteries. But I didn't get much further, I pulled into a gateway and broke down for a long time.
That was 3 years ago and my job still takes me into that town occasionally, and I wonder what my reaction would be now if I saw him. I'm having the therapy, I know most of what's going on in my head now, but am I any more rational or restrained. I'm not looking forward to finding out.


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#59473 - 05/01/04 07:46 PM Re: 4,000 - and still going !
wrangler Offline

Registered: 09/06/03
Posts: 84
Loc: Northern Virginia
Wow!! 4000 posts in two years is what? 10 posts a day every day?!? That is what I call dedicaiton. But what is even more impressive is that it really seems to be 4000 quality posts... I know I have certainly appreciated all that I have read. I remember reading somewhere at 5000 you get a free scoop of ice cream! \:D


"Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself." -Mary Schmich

#59474 - 05/01/04 08:15 PM Re: 4,000 - and still going !
SAR Offline
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Registered: 12/07/03
Posts: 3310
Loc: USA

You deserve every good thing that's happened to you between 0 and 4000. Above and beyond...maybe at 5000 you'll break some kind of internet barrier and it will speed up your connection?

glad you're still going,

#59475 - 05/01/04 10:08 PM Re: 4,000 - and still going !
outis Offline

Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2260
Loc: Maryland USA

I remember looking back through old posts several times. There are a lot of gems buried here. Before I got here, guys discussed things that bother me now.

One thing that impressed me was learning that there had been a time when you did not sign your name to your posts. I had thought that was so cowardly of me. But when I saw that even you had taken time to work up to signing, I felt a lot better about myself.

Thanks for blazing the trail. And keep those posts coming, please.


"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

#59476 - 05/02/04 01:08 AM Re: 4,000 - and still going !
Leosha Offline

Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
Oh, with Joe responding, I thought this was a count of the Met's loss games...Congratulation Lloydy! ;\)


Avatar photo in memory of my younger brother Makar.

"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963

#59477 - 05/02/04 02:03 AM Re: 4,000 - and still going !
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1983
Loc: Flint, Michigan
maybe at 5000 you'll break some kind of internet barrier and it will speed up your connection
or you could get rid of that 14.4kb modem. \:D

Keep it up Dave,

Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

#59478 - 05/02/04 09:58 PM Re: 4,000 - and still going !
doctorfrau Offline

Registered: 04/11/03
Posts: 60
Loc: West Virginia (NOT western Vir...

That is awesome! You have also dispensed some wonderful advice and understanding here in 4000 posts \:D
Keep up the good work!


"...your choice, is what to DO with the time that you are given."

#59479 - 05/03/04 05:14 PM Re: 4,000 - and still going !
wifenneed Offline

Registered: 12/20/02
Posts: 91
Loc: Michigan
To Lloydy-

Your pm's kept me from going truly nuts early on, in trying to help/cope/understand my husband/situations/feelings. I can't thank you enough for them and for your continued posts here at F&F.

You are a great teacher, and I thank you.



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