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#57994 - 02/24/04 05:19 PM Back together
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Registered: 06/12/02
Posts: 577
Loc: Canada
Hi all - just an update - my partner and I reconciled.

The whole episode definitely gave him a big scare. He eventually realized how much his anger was costing him. He came to a real realization that he realy was being abusive.. was a hard realization to have and that he knew that he was in danger of losing me forever if he didnt shape up.

I dont expect that he will never get angry again, but I do know that he is thinking more about his actions and really was shaken up by this experience.

He has since made and kept several appointments with his therapist and they are discussing his "mom" triggers (see previous post where I refer to her as an "abandoning authority".

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#57995 - 02/24/04 05:35 PM Re: Back together
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Registered: 12/02/03
Posts: 475
Loc: Brooklyn, NY
Welcome back! We've missed you!

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If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, what am I? If not now... when? --Hillel

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#57996 - 02/24/04 09:22 PM Re: Back together
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1983
Loc: Flint, Michigan
Welcome back,

I hope everything works out, he gets the help and support he needs, and you are both safe and free of abuse.

Bill

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Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

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#57997 - 02/25/04 10:55 AM Re: Back together
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Registered: 06/12/02
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Loc: Canada
we're getting support... have put together a "safety plan" for the next time it may start to head that direction.. also C is not just pushing away his anger but actually starting to look at it for the first time. He's doing about 3-5 hours of Therapy a week now.. good for him.

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