Originally posted by Mystic Rhythm:
Before disclosing to a family member, would giving them advance warning that the abuse you will be disclosing to them will shock, upset, confuse, and possibly even anger them?
I realize that I seem to have a better relationship with my family than many of you do or want to have. However, here is the general opening I used when telling my father:
Dad, I need to talk to you I have something to tell you that will be hard for me to say and hard for you to hear, but I can't stay silent any longer.
At the age of 10...
I covered a lot of ground afterward including his culpability (none in my case; there was nothing he could have done to protect me) and what I think the abuse did to me.
Don't know is this helps or is even appropriate to any of your situations, but there you go.