most of us survivors say that we would never be dragged into therapy by someone else, however well intentioned.
Personally, and I'm no expert here, I think I would refrain from telling him that you're seeking help from a therapist to understand his problems.
I have my older brother in the room right now and I'm trying to imagine my reaction if he'd have done this when I disclosed to him a few years ago, and all I can say is that I think I'd have been pissed off with him.
Our healing process is one of moving away from a situation where 'control' was the major issue, sexual abuse is as much about control over another person than it is about sex. Many abusers quickly tire of their 'conquests' and move on to another, they crave the chase and the capture more than the sex.
So we can react badly to family, partners and friends who come along and try to help us, it smacks of control once again.
What we need is a safe environment to share our fears, support in making our decisions, someone to believe us and trust us.
I can see that you realise this when you say right up front -
I want to be encouraging, but not pushy and it's a fine line to walk. Please tell me if I ever get too pushy.
It IS a fine line, and none of us here could possibly define the exact place it lies either, but I think I'd find your letter just a bit 'pushy' - especially in the early days of coming to terms with all the possible issues that any survivor must face.
I hate to discourage anyone, and I'm such a believer in the support, love and help that outsiders can give survivors that I don't write this to put you off, I certainly dont want to do that.
Let him know that you're there for him, when he needs someone to be there for him.
It's an old quotation that's been around for ever, but worth repeating.
"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk alongside me, and be my friend"