Brothers and sisters,
After reviewing what I have written here, and after considerable thought, I will be formally asking the moderators to close this post.
While the issues discussed here are important, there have been too many misunderstood responses and, frankly, personal attacks made on this thread, to make any more valid observations here.
Frankly, it was my last post that did it for me. I truly believe that nobody meant to be hurtful, and responded with their hearts, but a few of the brothers and sisters I care about most were hurt and I made what I later realized was a veiled attack on one of the respondants. I therefore became what I was railing against. I still stand by my ideas, but whether I meant to or not, I made a comment that could be construed as hurtful.
This topic is important, and perhaps the moderators can cut and paste the more insightful responses into a code-of-conduct that can be used for the future. This action, with real consequences for those who intentionally (key word!) break them. This can win back the confidences of the brothers and sisters who have been alienated.
I was scared for myself as well, because I saw a force for good about to come apart because of what was becoming personal attacks and words being tossed around without thought of what they could mean to survivors and their family and friends.
I hope that we can all learn from this, be able to discuss this issue more meaningfully at another time, and become a healing community again.
Again, please moderators, close this post. Too many good people are getting hurt.
There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies