Originally posted by VN:
Thank you to everyone who answers me. I really read that you speak. It is difficult to trust this, which - not I, which made incorrectly, that it - something she made. It - not mother who visits tomorrow, it is sister. I want conversation with her it, I do not know as. I have no one of the friend here to transfer it, I use the computer translator. It is silly, not directly.
I think I understand this.
You are saying that it is still hard to believe that your mother did something wrong.
You still think that what happened when you became a teenager and then a man was your decision, your responsibility.
No, V. A mother does not teach her son to be with women. Not like that. That is not a mother's job.
A mother teaches her son to respect women; how to treat women; maybe how to dance with a woman; NOT how to be with a woman.
V, this is very difficult. You will feel bad to think bad and wrong things of your mother. You might feel very bad, like a very bad son, but you are not a bad son, or a bad person.
Your mother was wrong and she was bad. NOT YOU. You know this. You can forgive her maybe someday, but you will not let this happen again.
Yes, anything you did was your choice, but it was not really much of a choice for you. It was what you were taught your whole life. Now you can see it is wrong and you can stop all of it.
I know it is easier to think that you did the things you wanted to do. It is easier to think that you were bad or wrong because it hurts too much to think that someone so important was bad and wrong and taught you wrong things.
And it hurts to think that they tricked you and lied to you and made you think that those things are OK and they made you think you had no other choices.
Now you are a man, and I know you are a good man because you have some very good people who are your friends.
And now you have many more friends here who will be here for you and help you in any way we can.
Thank you for coming here, V. You make us stronger and better. Let us do the same for you.