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#55022 - 01/07/05 06:50 PM THE REALITY OF THE PAST
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
MAY TRIGGER

The Reality of the Past.

Events of the past can never be changed. We can block them out. We can deny they happened. We can minimilize them. BUT WE CAN NEVER CHANGE THEM. This is the true reality. No matter what path our minds have taken sooner or later, the mind being what it is, these events with which we have not dealt will rise up in our conscious.

Very seldom does anyone block out happy or exciting events. As humans we tend to block out tragedy, loss, crimes or other horrific events in our past. These events by and large have had a huge emotional impact on us that leave us with conflict feelings. This can be easily recognized when a loved one dies and leaves you alone. All of us who experience this mourn the loss and at the same time get angry with that person who has left us. Irrational though it may be it is true.

The events of sexual abuse/assault are particularly horrific to us who have experienced it. In addition to the actual trauma that we suffer it tears apart our beliefs and values around trust and others. Additionally it attacks our very essence or soul for want of a better de>
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#55023 - 01/08/05 05:04 AM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
Whicker Offline
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Registered: 11/01/03
Posts: 117
Loc: Pastures of Oregon
Excellent Post!

Thank You for sharing it.

Whicker

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#55024 - 01/08/05 05:18 AM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
Bobby Offline
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Registered: 12/01/04
Posts: 1287
Loc: Arizona
Thank you, Mike. I am going to frame this, hang it on my wall and read it every morning. Bobby

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#55025 - 01/08/05 02:06 PM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
FLRich Offline
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Registered: 06/21/04
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WOW, Mikey!!! Thanks for the insight and suggestions. I think you may have hit the nail on the head, here.


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#55026 - 01/09/05 04:41 AM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
Michael Offline
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Registered: 12/05/04
Posts: 92
Loc: Claremore, Oklahoma
I think that pretty much says it all.

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#55027 - 01/11/05 03:36 PM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
Jake_t2398 Offline
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Registered: 01/11/05
Posts: 131
what you said here just made so much sense to me thanks dude for writing it


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#55028 - 01/11/05 06:02 PM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
robert1949 Offline
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Registered: 01/11/05
Posts: 3
Loc: Atlanta Ga Area
I am new here, I came here because I was looking and researching on the net to find resources and there are some real slim pickings for us. To be abused is a topic that many want to hide and never talk or reveal.

This has bothered me all my life, I was abused over and over and over as a child until we moved away from the perp. He is my uncle. As of late this has been bothering me again, every Christmas I get a card from him and toss it. Then it seems every show on tv mentions child abuse and you have to face it all over again.

The one thing I want is JUSTICE. That is all. Is that too much to ask. Justice, I see people in prison for minor crimes and over half the people in prison are there for drug related crimes. How aobut lets fill up Prison with Sexual Preditors?

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#55029 - 01/11/05 10:20 PM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
reality2k4 Offline
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Registered: 07/06/04
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Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
Just bringing this back to the top,

Mike you said it all,

ste

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#55030 - 01/11/05 11:49 PM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
Lloydy Offline
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Mike
I'm speechless......

Dave

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#55031 - 06/20/05 06:10 PM Re: THE REALITY OF THE PAST
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
I thought I would bring this back for the benefit of new guys here. I replied in a post about healing and think that this has a bearing on it.

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