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#153242 - 04/28/07 05:18 PM Re: Well this is about me, my story, I guess. Poss [Re: Alexander]
mogigo Offline
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Registered: 04/24/07
Posts: 1331
Loc: Colorado
Hey little Brother, School sucks.. I know, I know it doesn't help right now but the older you get the more they'll understand, hang in there bro. Flash backs are hard and it seems like no one gets it, but WE all get it. We know the embarrassment, and with us it's nothing to be embarrassed about, kids don't understand so they make up stories to make themselves feel better about what they don't get. Sucks now, but it will make sense to them later and then they'll feel bad about being so nasty. It's adult problems your dealing with so don't expect them to act like adults. I promise you, you'll get all the understanding you need when you get past them, again not fair right now, but hold on little brother. Were here, and we understand completely. You have been forced to deal with this before you were ready. No one wants to be an adult before they have to be and your handling it better than most would. I'll be praying for you little brother. Hang in there.

Mike

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#153256 - 04/28/07 09:54 PM Re: Well this is about me, my story, I guess. Poss [Re: mogigo]
Stefan012 Offline
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Registered: 12/18/06
Posts: 281
Loc: The Netherlands
just the wispering and all increased some again.
I've not been feeling great lately though.. feeling low i guess.
Skipped work today.. saturday... cause i didnt feel up to it and had barely slept either.
thanks for the replies.

Stefan

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You lost the things that you thought you would never miss.
You let them out and miss them while they're gone
But there's memories down here and they will always live down here
No they can't take them away, so they won't

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#153324 - 04/29/07 05:34 PM Re: Well this is about me, my story, I guess. Poss [Re: Stefan012]
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Posts: 1948
hope things get better..........stefan.......................steve


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#153540 - 04/30/07 04:41 PM Re: Well this is about me, my story, I guess. Poss [Re: Stefan012]
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Stefan,

Originally Posted By: Stefan012
just the wispering and all increased some again.
I've not been feeling great lately though.. feeling low i guess.
Skipped work today.. saturday... cause i didnt feel up to it and had barely slept either.


Do you have cool fun things you can focus on in your spare time? That helped me a lot. I was doing too much brooding and worrying, and as my stress level went up that just set me up for more difficulty.

The problem is that as we get more and more centered on our abuse problems, they become the defining reality of our lives and everything else seems to be just "in between". If possible, it's important to break out of that.

My solution was to join a blues group just to pick and slide away and keep myself focused on something I really enjoy. Even practicing by myself helped a lot.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#153780 - 05/01/07 05:10 PM Re: Well this is about me, my story, I guess. Poss [Re: roadrunner]
Stefan012 Offline
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Registered: 12/18/06
Posts: 281
Loc: The Netherlands
Yeah...
Usually hanging out whit my friends helps to forget about stuff for a while.
Or something like playing soccer or a good walk.
It's just hard sometimes. Hard to do anything at all sometimes.

Stefan

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You lost the things that you thought you would never miss.
You let them out and miss them while they're gone
But there's memories down here and they will always live down here
No they can't take them away, so they won't

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#153784 - 05/01/07 05:28 PM Re: Well this is about me, my story, I guess. Poss [Re: Stefan012]
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Stefan,

Yeah, I know what you mean. How about something you can do by yourself for awhile? A musical instrument, painting, writing poetry? Or how about cycling? There are some great routes in the Netherlands, but you already know that.

The idea is just to do something with yourself and not sit alone and thinking about things too much. I know it's hard to focus on anything right now, but it might help you a lot.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#161544 - 06/14/07 04:14 AM Re: Well this is about me, my story, I guess. Poss [Re: roadrunner]
Stefan012 Offline
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Registered: 12/18/06
Posts: 281
Loc: The Netherlands
So we finally got back the ruling on my father's case (against the physicall violence).
He's getting 21 months in prison and then a year 'conditional', i hope that is the right word. Meaning that he will not be in jail, but if in that year he does anything again he will go right back to jail again.
I'm glad it's now really finally and completely over.

Stefan

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You lost the things that you thought you would never miss.
You let them out and miss them while they're gone
But there's memories down here and they will always live down here
No they can't take them away, so they won't

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#161547 - 06/14/07 05:57 AM Re: Well this is about me, my story, I guess. Poss [Re: Stefan012]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Stefan,

I'm glad you got some closure on this. A term of 21 months seems like nothing for phyical violence against his own son, but what you DO get is public and official recognition that this happened and that it was wrong. He's got all the blame for he did, and I hope you will let him keep it, bro. Stay strong.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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