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#54419 - 07/15/03 06:47 PM I guess Ghost are real........
Redsongbird Offline
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Registered: 12/01/01
Posts: 209
I have been coming on here reading post for a few days. I always come back here. It is one of the few places that I feel like I fit in with other people.

Almost two years ago now I was ....attacked. We moved back to our home state. Took me ten months to even get my head on straight. Finally I was able to get a position that I really like and enjoy. Then the police department calls and I need to return to identify the criminals. So, after much thinking and praying...I do. Only to have one of these persons get loose while being "transfered" to another station. Shortly after that this guy starts making phones calls. Somehow he knows when I am home alone....he can hear the conversations of my wife and I on our cell phones...so we change the numbers....not too much longer after that AGAIN he calls....we change again...in the meanwhile I contact some what I thought would be help from local authorities but to no avail I find out that only if something happens here will they do anything about it. So the calls continue. My wife and I almost lose it several times. Stress builds and on and on it goes. I start to just say "Why don't you just come on you ########!" WE buy "protection" to make us feel better at home. Then through a call from a police department woman she who wont give us here name she tells me that he is coming and if I can be gone for a week the problems will all be over. So we did it. Now foralmost two whole months there has been nothing..at last we are starting to relax. During this process we change our legal names for protection...this was what we were advised to do. So this week we go to purchase a car that need..it's not just a want. My wife and I have total different schedules when I am teaching. So because of the name change...we are considered what they call "Ghosts" applicants without any history. Even when using our old names......my wife in on the way home right now.....we can't do anything...she says...how will we ever buy a home? a Car? anything? This man along with several other raped at gun point......I feel like it has happened all over again .......I was a victim when a child...now still a victim when an adult.....this is never ending....I am not the criminal (and neither is my wife) yet we are going to pay for this for the rest of our fXXXXking lives. I am so tired of this. I never knew a 300 pound man could be considered a GHOST! This whole thing is just bringing back everything up in my life. I am overwhelmed and in a few moments I need to be there for my wife emotionally when she arrives. I don't even feel like I have strength.

thanks for listening...I needed someplace to crash right now and I immediately thought of here so I came in and turned the computer on right away......

Tobey


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#54420 - 07/15/03 10:16 PM Re: I guess Ghost are real........
outis Offline
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Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2260
Loc: Maryland USA
Tobey,

That sounds like a real Catch-22. I hope somebody in the legal system can straighten this out for you.

You're not a ghost, of course. I'm glad you felt you can come here to vent. You're a survivor, and you will get through this.

Keep us posted on how this goes, the car, the police, everything.

Joe

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"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

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#54421 - 07/15/03 10:41 PM Re: I guess Ghost are real........
martin Offline
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Registered: 06/08/03
Posts: 229
Loc: The Good Earth
Tobey,

I'm sorry that things are so rough right now. You are doing the right thing and you are a survivor.

You can come here anytime and vent, seek support, or give support, that can be a relief too.

Take care of yourself.

Peace,
Aaron

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Its times like these we learn to live again,
Its times like these we give & give again,
Its times like these we learn to love again,
Its times like these time & time again.
-The Foo Fighters

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#54422 - 07/16/03 11:25 AM Re: I guess Ghost are real........
Redsongbird Offline
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Registered: 12/01/01
Posts: 209
Well, we made it through last nite. Thanks for letting me vent on here. The wife seemed to be doing better by the time she got home. She said she cried all the way and got it out of her system.

I guess now we need to figure out how to build credit in our new name. At least we know that we can not be found...which was was the name change was suppose to accomplish.

Tobey


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