taipan, i am the spouse of a survivor. over the short time that i have been coming here, i/we have received nothing but respect, support, friendship, understanding, acceptance, and a shelter from the storms of past abuse.
lloydy has abolutely nothing but most kind and loving intentions at heart. do not accuse him of anything less. his words are neither malicious nor abusive. if you do not agree with this, then maybe consider taking up the anger or blame issue with your doctor or therapist, but please, it does not belong in this forum.