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#53460 - 04/16/04 07:12 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
crisispoint Offline

Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts

Once the faucet is open, the pressure goes away, doesn't it?

I know, not completely. But it's the first step. And Marc, trust me, it DOES get better.

It ain't the end, not by a LONG shot, but it's the end of the beginning.

The road gets more level. Bumpy to be sure, but not the great huge hill you saw.

I'm very proud of you, my brother. You need anything, I'm here.

Peace and love (and why can't I see you at the top of the screen? \:\) )


There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies

#53461 - 04/16/04 07:34 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
MikeNY Offline

Registered: 03/07/04
Posts: 927
Loc: NY
\:\) \:\) \:\) \:\) \:\) Today is a five smiley day. Congrats Marc.

"Every child asks the questions which hold the answers to the secrets of the universe, WHAT?, and WHY?". --Me

#53462 - 04/16/04 08:06 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
onlyakid Offline

Registered: 03/31/04
Posts: 1556
Loc: New Jersey
I'm glad you had a good session with your psychologist, its a great feeling after telling someone face to face. I had the same trouble, I just couldn't say it. I knew that this person was a professional but I guess I felt like if I didn't say it it wouldn't be real. But it is real, and I did say it and it felt great.

Congrats, I'm here for you man, and

I BELIEVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


"Being with people that understand you...Priceless"

"and i don't want the world to see me, cause i don't think that they'd understand"

"You don't know what love just do as your told"

"My life has changed. What you take as a simple thing, is not so simple for me anymore"

#53463 - 04/16/04 08:39 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1983
Loc: Flint, Michigan

That is a big step forward, you are on your way. Forward.
My phychiatrist was the first person I told, basically because he was the first to ask. My therapist was the second for the same reason. I should have done that years (and years) before. Better late than never.

Journey well,

Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

#53464 - 04/16/04 09:24 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
swartzhund Offline

Registered: 04/08/04
Posts: 61
Loc: Michigan
Way to go Marc! Keep coming back, we need people like you around here. Stories like yours makes me want to take that step too.


#53465 - 04/16/04 11:23 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
faceinthecrowd Offline

Registered: 12/02/03
Posts: 40
Marc,To say what happened to someone else cannot be compared to anything.It is a gut wrenching like no other.I was 40 ,28 yrs. after Iwas molested before it was spoken.It was 6 yrs later when I finally started dealing with it.Deal now Marc,keep the healing going.You are not alone.What you did today helped more people than you can know.////////////////facewhatyoucanasyoucanbutfaceit

#53466 - 04/17/04 12:03 AM Re: Goal 1 achieved
yesac76 Offline

Registered: 03/23/04
Posts: 508
Loc: Idaho
Congratulations on making that hard first step! I am proud of you, my brother. I believe you! I am sad it happened to you, but you can get through this. I believe in you!

"You live it or lie it" Metallica

#53467 - 04/17/04 02:03 AM Re: Goal 1 achieved
subdeacon Offline

Registered: 02/12/04
Posts: 83
Loc: Florida
Marc, my brother and my friend, I am so proud of you I could bust! Our shoulders are always here to lean yours has been there for me when I needed it. Again, I am so proud of you, man. Well All right, then!


"By way of trials and sufferings we must purify the divine image in us...for it is by reforging our senses in the furnace of our trials that we free them from defilement and assume our royal dignity. --Abba Philimon

#53468 - 04/17/04 06:31 AM Re: Goal 1 achieved
outis Offline

Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2260
Loc: Maryland USA
There are no more secrets.
Doesn't that part feel so much better?

Congratulations, Marc, you took a big step. Things do get better because you're making it so.



"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

#53469 - 04/17/04 05:30 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
Don-NY Offline

Registered: 08/06/02
Posts: 546
Loc: Long Island, NY
Great news, Marc. And I really like what you said about the rope because it seems we all do that at times.

We throw ropes for ourselves and each other to hang on to.

The best thing is, when you have a lot of ropes all together, you make nets, and rope ladders; Places where you're caught safely, and places where you climb back up.

That's a great image for what we have here; Safety nets and ladders- Lifelines all over the place.

Thanks for reminding me.

If you understand everything, some things are just as they are. If you understand nothing, things are still just as they are.

#53470 - 04/17/04 06:06 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
JAAY Offline

Registered: 04/14/04
Posts: 115
Loc: NYC
You should be proud of yourself! I remember walking around for a week before getting my med filled at the drug store. I had taken been taking with a therapist and the meds help me cope with sll the things I was unloading. It was enpowering to help myself. Good luck! \:\)

#53471 - 04/17/04 07:53 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
isn't it a wonderful feeling when the person you tell doesn't recoil in horror ?
And it's gets better Marc, every time you tell it the 'secret' gets less.

I'm proud of you !


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#53472 - 04/17/04 07:57 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
Arthur Offline
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Registered: 03/29/04
Posts: 25
Loc: Florida
\:D \:D \:D \:D ;\)

I'm feeling really proud and happy for you. It's a big scary step and you took it! Good for you.



#53473 - 04/17/04 08:06 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
A really wise step Marc. Feelings can jump all over the place, but at least here we all understand and can support you in the bad and the good.



If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.

#53474 - 04/18/04 04:38 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
Thomas Offline

Registered: 07/31/03
Posts: 109
Loc: boise

I know I'm posting this rather late, but oh, well, better late than never. Telling another person face to face is an enormously difficult thing to do(or at least it was for me), although it was inevitable in my case. I experienced a flashback during a session with my therapist when we were talking about something else :rolleyes: ! I found that once the secret was out(and I didn't even know it was there) that the poison began to drain.

Good for you, Marc. Let the healing begin.


To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive. - Robert Louis Stevenson

#53475 - 04/19/04 01:29 PM Re: Goal 1 achieved
Mike Church Offline
Moderator Emeritus
Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Marc; Well here I am again late as usual. Wow. It is out. The dirty little secret of your Perp. And the P said. Marc I believe you. Sure you got emotional. Three things happened Marc.
1. He listened 2.He believed and 3. In his mind you are a strong man that needs help and is setting about doing it the right way.

It is like lancing a boil Marc. No more hiding for the perps.

God I am so proud of you and so very happy you did come back.

I am also glad that you thought of the rope as a life line. That means so much to all of us here. It is called trust and to be trusted his food for the soul



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