I thought you said it well. "I had to pack in the work i love and the people i meet there, and they do not know why." My mom said she lost her whole family when my sister and I brought up the SA and my dad's violent behavior. The fact is, she lost her whole family long ago when she saw what was happening and stood by and did nothing.
We're the ones who have lost everything. The biggest loss was trust. But maybe, in the end, we live closer to who we really are and the life we really want. By sharing here and with others, having friends outside and on this site--I consider you a friend--we have something better. There's no right or wrong way to deal with child abuse. We just stand together, mourn together, and do the best we can.
Take care of yourself, OK reality?
"This search for the truth--it's not for the faint of heart."--Goren on 'Law & Order: CI'
"The former things will not be called to mind, neither will they come up into the heart."--Isaiah 65:17