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#52285 - 12/09/06 04:51 PM Re: Why? Kids wont dare tell!
batcountry Offline
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Registered: 09/20/06
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i dont think this is about the girl telling.

it's about the people she told, spreading gossip, and letting everyone who had no business knowing know what happened to her.

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#52286 - 12/09/06 04:54 PM Re: Why? Kids wont dare tell!
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Oh ok sorry. I'm still waking up. Thank you.


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#52287 - 12/09/06 04:59 PM Re: Why? Kids wont dare tell!
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no problem \:\)

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#52288 - 12/09/06 05:45 PM Re: Why? Kids wont dare tell!
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Originally posted by endlessjourney:
Please explain Melliferal.

Jason
I think the situation is, the disclosure of the abuse had already happened and was being dealt with; however, someone was going around spreading the name of the abused child all over town. The fear of a situation like that happening is certainly one of the things that kept me from telling.

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#52289 - 12/09/06 05:57 PM Re: Why? Kids wont dare tell!
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Of course! She has to go through enough without f*cking assholes spreading it.
Its totally unbelievable how people can spread this stuff about, without knowing the consequences.

She will already be shouldering the blame, guilt of her dad going to jail, and the family break up.
He has fucked up his own seemingly lovely family,

ste

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#52290 - 12/10/06 05:49 AM Re: Why? Kids wont dare tell!
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What would you think about hearing about that girl. would you judge her or would you at least be supportive to her. I would and I would expect that most of the other people that are aware would. I guess some people would be avoidant of her and that would hurt her. However, you were right.

"The fear of a situation like that happening is certainly one of the things that kept me from telling". Exactly. My point is, that concept is what helped the perps to have leweigh over us. Yea, its gonna hurt her at first but in the long run, it is probably the greatest thing that has ever happened to her. Maybe the girl felt different at the time but I don't think anyone else would think any less of her.

The whole family wasn't guilty of this. The father was. He was the one who was shamed and should have been for his actions.

After recovering for a long time, I've learned that people that know about what happened to don't perceive me as "Jason, the kid that was sexually abused". They see me as Jason, nothing more or less. I guess It is somewhat frightening thinking that people would think I could be a perp because it happened to me. You all know that myth. The truth needs to be shown about that as well. I feel that revelation is the key to recovery in anyone. Secrecy, was the very tool that prevented us from justice as children.

Maybe that little girl wasn't strong enough or ready to deal with the fact that everyone knew, or the pain and guilt she may have felt. Who is? Who was ready to deal with any of the affects of CSA. None of us. We just had to pick up our weight and do what we do best. Move on.

Much love,
Jason

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#52291 - 12/10/06 05:56 AM Re: Why? Kids wont dare tell!
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Registered: 11/13/06
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:rolleyes:

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today I have NO SHAME and will disclose to anyone for the sole purpose of educating them.
Likewise, I don't shout it from the rooftops, but people need to know so I can be free from living a lie.

Im honest about it so I no longer have to lie.

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