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#52030 - 07/18/06 07:21 PM jail
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
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Loc: Rhode Island
i told my stepsister that i wanted to
make her brother and her dad go to
jail for what they do
she said 'no' she said shes gonna talk
to them and straightn it all out.
i have no fucking idea what shes
talking about but she freaked out when
i told her that.

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#52031 - 07/18/06 07:36 PM Re: jail
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Trev,

Your stepsister quite understandably has a lot of heavy and conflicting feelings about this. She wants you to get the help you need, but she doesn't want to see her Dad and brother get into deep trouble. What she doesn't appreciate right now is that what was done to you is a terrible crime and that people who do this have to be exposed and held accountable for it.

However this goes, there is nothing she can do to "straighten it all out". Does she expect that there is something she can say or do that will make all this "okay" somehow? Again, she is speaking from the position of someone caught in the middle.

Much love,
Larry

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#52032 - 07/18/06 07:46 PM Re: jail
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i feel kind of bad for her

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#52033 - 07/18/06 08:09 PM Re: jail
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Trev,

I bet you do. But her father and brother are abusers of children and it may well be that there were others before you. Most abusers molest multiple kids, and some are known to have abused hundreds and perhaps more. That's why it is so important that they be stopped.

That's not to say that your case isn't enough reason by itself. It is! If your abusers are allowed to just walk away, then the message to you and other boys is that your feelings and your body - and you as Trevor - aren't important. The message is that adults and older teens can just help themselves when and wherever they want. Why? Because they are bigger. Because they need to "get off". Because they need the sick "thrill" of making a kid yield the last thing he would ever want to give to them - his body for their sexual amusement.

Sorry if this sounds harsh bro. But this is the reality we are talking about, and this is why abuse is such a catastrophe for the boy who is used like this.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can make me turn back:
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#52034 - 07/18/06 08:21 PM Re: jail
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i dont know if she realy undrstands
what realy went on

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#52035 - 07/18/06 08:27 PM Re: jail
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Trev,

I am quite sure she doesn't. That's what is making this so difficult for her. Just the fact that she thinks she can do "straighten it all out" shows she hasn't a clue.

I'm not saying that to judge her. There really is no way she COULD know.

Much love,
Larry

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#52036 - 07/18/06 08:30 PM Re: jail
Trevor Offline
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Loc: Rhode Island
should i tell her?
i mean i told her but it was
all just general stuff no details
or anything then i started feeling
stupid about telling so i kind
of ble w it off an said it was
no big deal

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#52037 - 07/18/06 08:34 PM Re: jail
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Trev,

How old is this stepsister and how close are you to her? Do you have other safe adults you can talk to?

I ask because your stepsister - as you can imagine - is between a rock and a hard place here. It may be difficult for her to see what needs to be done.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#52038 - 07/18/06 08:37 PM Re: jail
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Registered: 06/05/06
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Loc: Rhode Island
shes 26 and were close but not that
close but im not close to anybody
she was nice when i was getting out
of the hospital i had nowhere to go
she said i could live with her
and her husband. its just her
and them and my mom but shes
in the hospital rite now an
thats it

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#52039 - 07/18/06 08:41 PM Re: jail
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Trev,

Aha. This makes a LOT of difference. Can you sit down with her and her husband and talk to them together? It will be difficult, I know. But what you ABSOLUTELY need right now is real support where you are and a safe place to live.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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