You asked an important question. One that I think everyone of us have asked ourselves at some point and are still asking.
i do have a question... how do you tell who are the good people? i just don't think I'm willing to let myself get hurt and beat around by selfish or cruel people to find the few good ones.
I'll have to agree with Jacob in that I guess we need to come to the place where we are secure enough in ourselves that when someone rejects, or attempts to take advantage of us, we are able to let it slide off and simply say. "Oh well, that's their problem not mine."
Another way of putting it is that in order to make a lifetime friend, we have to be willing to be vulnerable to hurt. Then if we do get hurt we simply move on instead of being destroyed by the hurt.
It's a lot easier for me to say than it is to do, of course, but I think I'm getting there. Hope you can see the progress in your own life as well.
Lots of love,