Nathan, I am so sorry of how much is happening at you right now. It is hard, that your family is disapproving of your relationship based on age? Yes, it is of many years, the difference in age, but you are adult, she is adult. It should be based on how you feel of each other, not to please other people, I would think. (I am not a good person to give advise on the relationships, I am afraid). I only hope that you allow yourself to make a decision based on what you most feel. It must be so very difficult for you, being that you will be hurting someone you care about, whichever you choose. I am afraid I do not have much advise for you, so I just want you to know I will hold you in my thoughts, and wish only good things and strength to you. And please take care of your health as you work so much. Be well.
Avatar photo in memory of my younger brother Makar.
"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963