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#4885 - 06/17/05 01:31 PM Re: Coping with Flashbacks--Any Suggestions?
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#4886 - 06/17/05 03:51 PM Re: Coping with Flashbacks--Any Suggestions?
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Jasper I have used a strong elastic band to help me with triggers in the past. Whenever I felt that feeling coming on I would snap the damn thing that was around my wrist and it would hurt like hell but boy did it bring me back to the present. Just a thought.

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#4889 - 06/18/05 09:31 AM Re: Coping with Flashbacks--Any Suggestions?
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Through my experiences with flashbacks I have done many things to cope with them and still practice these things to this day. First of all I want to tell you that flashbacks can be a good thing because it is a way for your mind to deal with things in slow natural ways.

My first advice to you is to not fear them. Let them come and learn what you can from them. I know with my whole being that they can be scary and at times unbearable but do your best to understand them and accept them for what they are, (Ways to deal with and help you through the process of recovery.)

The next step is to really come to an understanding of them. Flashbacks are spiratic memories that are arising because you have failed to deal with something in the past. Learn everything you can about the memory. Write it down, play it out, and don't allow yourself to forget anything. There is a reason you are having the flashbacks and it is important to know and understand why you are. Through out everything you have experienced your mind had to find a way to survive and with most of us that way of survival was shuting down and tunning out the experience. Well by doing this all that happened was your mind took the experience and storred the unbarable memory away into a place that only could be accessed when you could mentally and physically handle the experience. Therefore when we get older and are able to process these things your mind opens up that hidden place and flashbacks are created.

If the flashback happens to be something you feel you have not forgotten and it is a memmory that will not cease to exist even though you have dealt with all of its aspects be open enough to rethink and write the experience again just to make sure you are not forgetting anything. Again I know reliving those experiences and looking into the past is extreamly hard but in order to truly go down the path to recovery you have to work through all of the nightmeres of the past.

I have found for me that writing is the best way to tackle the jouney of recovery. Also having someone you can share those writings with is prudent so you know that someone is not only listening to your story but also there to support and help you through the times you feel unable to continue on.

There will be times that you are so affraid you just want to eliminate all things and cease to exist, You will cry uncontrollibly, you will have yawning spells, you will feel like just disapearing into ablivion but the good news is there will be times when you look back and realize how far you have come. You will begin to notice that the flashbacks are less than they were and feel an incredible joy that lifts you high above all of the clouds that darken your skys. You will find your self in a sail boat with a full crew yelling out, "What orders Captain." when just a little while ago you felt like you were floundering alone. Just continue down your path and continue to be strong and realize that nothing will happen to you that you can not handle.

If you are not writing I would suggest you start because it can be incredably helpful for you. I wish you all the best and hope that some of what I said helps you on your journey. Good luck.

malidin

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#4890 - 06/18/05 11:34 AM Re: Coping with Flashbacks--Any Suggestions?
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Flashbacks, or overwhelming fears. It is best to try and visualise them as only that, they are not valid and not real, it is just how the mind reacts to certain triggering fears.

Dealing with flashbacks is not easy, and sometimes it is like you feel you are going crazy and losing control. I cope with flashbacks by trying to understand situations that they may occur in.

To me, I had to find a safe quiet place, and just relax every muscle in my body and breath slowly but deeply, I also had to divert my mind away from what caused it.

Read this link,

http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=154

It DOES get easier,

ste

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#4892 - 06/18/05 04:25 PM Re: Coping with Flashbacks--Any Suggestions?
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#4893 - 06/19/05 04:04 AM Re: Coping with Flashbacks--Any Suggestions?
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Only thing thats ever worked for me is controlling my breathing (keeping it calm), concentrating on setting my heart-rate down, and hang on to every bit of reality and logical thinking i can.

It works both for my flashbacks, and when i start getting psychotic.

Malidin is probably right about observing them and learning from them, but i think you really have to be ready to do that, and i am not currently ready..

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#4894 - 06/19/05 10:30 AM Re: Coping with Flashbacks--Any Suggestions?
Malidin41 Offline
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Thankyou Jasper50 for your kind words that made me feel really good. I also want to thank you to Grobut. I was really happy to see you both making such coments.

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