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#483273 - 06/02/15 03:37 PM What triggers repetitive sexual fixations?
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Registered: 11/27/12
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Is there a trigger or triggers that activates repetitive sexual thinking, rehearsing or fantasizing?

For me it's stress. Relational stress is the worse.

Experiencing disapproval and disappointment from someone is so painfull that it can quickly trigger a sense of worthlessness. I often get trigered into thinking about negitive sexual fanticy as an excape from the feeling of "being bad" or unworthy. In the past this fantasy often blended being bad with deserving to be sexualy abused as a theme. I think this is some times a way of trying to make myself feel better or excape the pain through sexual arousal. Don't know.




Edited by SmartShadow (06/04/15 03:13 PM)

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#483360 - 06/04/15 09:23 AM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: SmartShadow]
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Registered: 02/03/13
Posts: 293
I donít have SSA, well I do, but since I'm in a relationship with a guy that's a good thing. But I do sometimes think about or do stuff that I donít like. Stress is a pretty big trigger for this. But like you said, when someone makes me feel bad about myself, or I just feel bad about myself in general that seems to be the biggest trigger. I suppose itís just reinforcing to myself that I am a bad person. Being bored sometimes causes it too. I don't know how to fix this, except trying to avoid stress or boredom, but that's not always possible.

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#483364 - 06/04/15 10:27 AM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: SmartShadow]
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What triggers your same sex fixation?

I suppose being gay does. I don't mean to be flip, but for many - that's what it ultimately comes down to.

It's sort of like the woman who asks, "Does this dress make my butt look fat?" No. Your fat butt makes your butt look fat.

Maybe not everybody. But it is an SSA evolution I rarely see discussed.
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#483372 - 06/04/15 03:04 PM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: SmartShadow]
SmartShadow Offline


Registered: 11/27/12
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Txs, Eric, thanks for your feedback!

I will edit my original post to reflect better what I was trying to get at. Sorry for any poorly chosen wording on my part.


Edited by SmartShadow (06/04/15 03:14 PM)

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#483384 - 06/05/15 12:48 AM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: SmartShadow]
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Registered: 10/17/14
Posts: 100
Loc: CA
For me stress in my life from personal to work. I don't know why but it seems to be the only way to just get my mind to stop at times. I turn to porn which over the years I look at myself as a looser for it then tell myself it's no big deal.

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#486130 - 07/28/15 08:43 PM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: SmartShadow]
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for me its stress, something going wrong in my life, a build up of mental pressure, when I get to feeling I think im worthless no good etc and I need/deserve pain or to be used by somebody for their pleasure I just start feeling im a piece of s**t so why not ? its all im good for right, or I can do it to feel the pain because im so tired of feeling the mental pain I just need a change of feelings, plus doing it right makes me a good boy and I can get some ice cream or cake or something after they are done with me.

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#486633 - 08/06/15 12:47 PM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: SmartShadow]
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Registered: 11/15/13
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stress and diet affect me the most. For some strange reason when I eat sugary/fatty foods consistently, my brain starts to change and I crave recreating the abuse that was inflicted upon me. When I eat healthy and exercise, those feelings/cravings seem to get muted and fall to the back of my mind. That is how my messed up brain works anyways.

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#486680 - 08/07/15 07:50 PM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: SmartShadow]
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Registered: 07/24/15
Posts: 141
Loc: Australia
Sugar is worse on the brain centres than cocaine it in some way.
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#487093 - 08/16/15 04:20 AM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: SmartShadow]
Strive 38/11 Offline


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Gee a good looking guy smiling at me so beautifully, I know now the boy within is looking for good for a friend. But it's crippling he's so beautiful and its body language is so open.

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#487263 - 08/19/15 03:01 PM Re: What triggers your same sex fixation? [Re: johndoe]
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Registered: 06/02/15
Posts: 65
Loc: USA
Originally Posted By: johndoe
stress and diet affect me the most. For some strange reason when I eat sugary/fatty foods consistently, my brain starts to change and I crave recreating the abuse that was inflicted upon me. When I eat healthy and exercise, those feelings/cravings seem to get muted and fall to the back of my mind. That is how my messed up brain works anyways.


I'd guess that this is related to dopamine pathways.

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