i purposely do things a little different than anyone else, just to be noticed. being noticed includes negative reactions from insecure, ignorant and judgemental people.
i call them petty tyrants.
some of the criticism comes from a good place... the person genuinely thinks you are not aware of the prevailing "norm" and wishes to bring you into the fold.
other people simply consider alternative behaviour deviant, dangerous, threatening and disruptive. as such, it must be attacked and eliminated.
despite the fact that our culture and media openly celebrate individuality and originality and innovation, i have received almost no encouragement or support for my uniqueness.
in fact, my free spirit has been under attack for as long as i can remember. i have been discriminated against for hairstyles, clothing, jewelry, tattoos, opinions, attitude, appearance... a whole list of things that society and employers believe is their business to control.
i am sick of hearing this phrase, "Listen, I personally
don't have a problem with your ___________ BUT I have to consider my clients or the public, and I can't have you looking like that."
passing the buck.
what they are really saying is... "I am not a prejudice bigot, but I choose to cater to prejudice and bigotry for the sake of money." what is the difference?
i fought with the railway for 9 years over ridiculous things like earrings and dyed hair. i won every single case, sometimes reinstated with full retroactive pay, until they finally gave up and left me alone. after that, i was completely ostracized by the railway community. i did not last for more that a few years after that. the ostracism succeeded where the oppression had failed.
in canada we have the charter of rights and freedoms which clearly states...
Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms: Section 2
Everyone has the following fundamental freedoms:
(a) freedom of conscience and religion;
(b) freedom of thought, belief, opinion and expression,
including freedom of the press and other media of communication;
(c) freedom of peaceful assembly; and
(d) freedom of association.
Freedom of expression includes: freedom of speech, freedom of the press, and freedom of communication in general, as well as any body gesture(s) such as a look that conveys meaning, or a showing of feeling. With this freedom of expression, however, is the consistent legal qualifier that the individual produces no related measureable, identifiable or demonstrable harm. For example, unproven or untruthful slanderous or libelous statements which can harm another person's reputation are not legally allowed. Neither is hate speech. The Canadian "Criminal Code prohibits the communication of statements that willfully promote hatred against an identifiable group." Instead, polite and peaceful communications are expected of everyone.
unfortunately there are no "Rights and Freedoms" police.
the charter is not policed by law enforcement officers.
violation of the charter does not seem to be a criminal offence because i have never received any help from the police.
each individual citizen must be aware of, and fight for, their own rights through civil courts, tribunals, appeals and arbitration hearings.
i think that money is really the rule. those with the money wish to exercise power without restriction. employers will always find people with slave mentality. these people will obey orders without question. they will conform, and then confirm and validate each other's obedience and loyalty. it becomes easy to reject any freethinkers demanding dignity. people who know their rights, and choose to express or exercise them, are quickly branded "trouble makers" and "shit disturbers" and are eventually squeezed out of the income opportunities.
groupthink is the enemy of innovation. groupthink is the foundation of mindless mobs. conformity should be a natural voluntary process that occurs over time through association.
tolerance is required but it is lacking. the economic oppression and financial penalties that nonconformists are forced to endure is more than a crime and a sin, it is a huge mistake, a fatal flaw in the fabric of our society.