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#470008 - 09/13/14 11:48 PM Greetings & some thoughts
BobdaFarmer61 Offline

Registered: 09/11/14
Posts: 1
Loc: Virginia
Hello! I am excited to find this site with so many other like-minded people. The loneliness and isolation that I always felt were compounded by further insulating myself from the outside world. I did this primarily because of the guilt and shame I felt, and didn't know how to release. The things that happened were very long ago, but the scars from the wounds today are much worse than the actual injuries now. I believe that I need to deal positively with these issues to heal. I spent my life so far medicating the hurt with food, drugs, alcohol, sex, and a few other things too. Now, after almost 7 years of abstinent eating, and being clean from drugs and alcohol, I finally feel ready to address the base issue-namely, the abuse, bullying, humiliation, & ridicule that I underwent from about age 7 to age 13. I am excited by the prospect of eventual recovery thanks to my progress in the other areas of my life. The 12-step programs have taught me that change is possible-even if it is only changing how I think about things in my mind. The affirmations posted on the home page here really made me joyful because I read, and re-read, each affirmation as a promise that I could incorporate as a promise from my Higher Power. I look forward to learning and sharing life, support, encouragement, and getting to know others who share similar life experiences. I am sorry that anyone suffered any abuse, but I am very grateful that I don't have to bear these burdens alone and can share experience, strength, and hope, as we all recover together. I hope to post more later. This is my first post here. I can't wait to spend some time here digesting and assimilating what other's have done before me. Thanks for your support and encouragement and know that I will offer my support as I am able. Please forgive me if I am off-topic, but I am celebrating the innocent joy of my inner child as I compose this initial post. Just finding this site give me so much hope and encouragement. I am anxious to divest myself of the shame, guilt, denial, disguise, and other toxic behaviors in favor of working to see what true recovery looks like. I'll post more as I am able. I am open to receiving any insight and directions that might be helpful to me as I begin this journey.

#470009 - 09/13/14 11:49 PM Re: Greetings & some thoughts [Re: BobdaFarmer61]
jj78 Offline

Registered: 12/10/10
Posts: 110
Loc: Midwest
Hi there...JJ here. Welcome to MS...I'm glad you found this site.

#470010 - 09/13/14 11:59 PM Re: Greetings & some thoughts [Re: BobdaFarmer61]
finallyhere Offline

Registered: 08/09/14
Posts: 26
Loc: Midwest
Hey, Glad to have you here and yes the comfort among numbers is great. Knowing we are not alone in itself is momentum to keep moving forward.

#470011 - 09/14/14 12:03 AM Re: Greetings & some thoughts [Re: BobdaFarmer61]
woodenshoes Offline

Registered: 06/04/14
Posts: 4
Welcome glad your here. Hope you find the friendship of your fellow man help with the journey to heal our inner boy. There are lots of resources call on us as needed.

heal well

#470067 - 09/15/14 03:03 PM Re: Greetings & some thoughts [Re: BobdaFarmer61]
Nothing Man Offline

Registered: 04/10/14
Posts: 46
Loc: Ohio
Welcome to a place of healing and peace. We stand with you.
You want courage
I'll show you courage you can't understand
The pearl and silver
Resting on my night table
It's just me lord, pray I'm able
I am the nothing man.

-- Bruce Springstein

#470090 - 09/15/14 11:15 PM Re: Greetings & some thoughts [Re: BobdaFarmer61]
Bluedogone Offline

Registered: 07/03/13
Posts: 203
Loc: Southeast US
Hello BobdaFarmer61, and welcome

Your enthusiasm to meet the challenge of healing after so many years of otherwise is contagious. I hope some of it rubs off on me. I think you've found, as have I, that exchanging all the toxic behaviors of the past for the positive affirmations of future healing and recovery are easier, and seem somehow lighter if met with support and understanding. This support and understanding is what to expect at MS

Peace, good luck and heal well.

Never, never, never, never give up....Winston Churchill

#470172 - Yesterday at 10:51 PM Re: Greetings & some thoughts [Re: BobdaFarmer61]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1527
Loc: New England
Originally Posted By: BobdaFarmer61
...The things that happened were very long ago, but the scars from the wounds today are much worse than the actual injuries now..... I spent my life so far medicating the hurt with food, drugs, alcohol, sex, and a few other things too.
Welcome Bob,

You already have gained a great deal of insight from the work you've done so far. I hope MS proves to be helpful to you continuing that journey. I'm sure many others here benefited from your post. Keep up the good work.

Be well,

Well, I won't back down
No I won't back down
You can stand me up at the gates of hell
But I won't back down.
Tom Petty


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