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#469556 - 08/31/14 08:29 PM A new chapter in my sex life.
justplainme Offline


Registered: 09/01/09
Posts: 325
I had sex with my beautiful girl and did not think about the abuse for one second, i was too involved in our lovemaking, i hope this can restore faith in all of you who have suffered PTSD with flashbacks during sex. Rape flashbacks are like a virus clinging to every sexual energy you might have, i ditched the anti-virus solutions and just upgraded my whole system, making the virus obsolete. A new lease on my sexual life. Abuse no more.
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"Survivors need an opportunity to define their own sexuality in their own terms, rather than in reaction to the abuse, so that they stop allowing their offenders to have power over them sexually."

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#469559 - 08/31/14 10:25 PM Re: A new chapter in my sex life. [Re: justplainme]
NoSimpleMachine Offline


Registered: 06/05/14
Posts: 162
Loc: SF Bay Area
Love it! So happy for you smile
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If I know only one thing it's that everything that I see
Of the world outside is so inconceivable often I barely can speak
Yeah I'm tongue-tied and dizzy and I can't keep it to myself
What good is it to sing Helplessness Blues, why should I wait for anyone else?

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#469564 - 09/01/14 04:36 AM Re: A new chapter in my sex life. [Re: justplainme]
justplainme Offline


Registered: 09/01/09
Posts: 325
I appreciate the sentiments NosimpleMachine. smile
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"Survivors need an opportunity to define their own sexuality in their own terms, rather than in reaction to the abuse, so that they stop allowing their offenders to have power over them sexually."

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#469660 - 09/04/14 02:34 AM Re: A new chapter in my sex life. [Re: justplainme]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1596
Loc: New England
Just goes to show that the root of happiness is piness.

I too was recently able to stay present during sex. No dissociation. No race to the finish line to get it over with. Never occurred to me before that you could relate to your partner while making love.
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Seems I've got to have a change of scene
Every night I have the strangest dreams
Imprisoned by the way it could have been
Left here on my own or so it seems
I've got to leave before I start to scream
Joe Cocker

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#469673 - 09/04/14 09:04 AM Re: A new chapter in my sex life. [Re: justplainme]
randombreeze Offline


Registered: 02/03/14
Posts: 60
Loc: WNY
jpm, this is great news, and I'm so happy for you. I've also struggled with sexual dysfunction for 40 plus years, and have two failed marriages in my past to prove it.

Since finally facing my abuse head on this year, I've been able to experience uninhibited sex with my g/f. While there's an occasional setback and I'm still not always 100% "present" all the time, I'm getting better at staying in the present at all times, not just during lovemaking.

Here's to continued sexual health for you and everyone else that have had to deal with the cancer like effects of CSA. Never, ever, ever give up feeling good about yourself or your ability to trust.

Paul
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"Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky"- Rabindranath Tagore

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#469686 - 09/04/14 02:15 PM Re: A new chapter in my sex life. [Re: justplainme]
justplainme Offline


Registered: 09/01/09
Posts: 325
Here ,here! Thanks for the support my friends. smile appreciate it.
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"Survivors need an opportunity to define their own sexuality in their own terms, rather than in reaction to the abuse, so that they stop allowing their offenders to have power over them sexually."

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#469687 - 09/04/14 03:11 PM Re: A new chapter in my sex life. [Re: justplainme]
NoSimpleMachine Offline


Registered: 06/05/14
Posts: 162
Loc: SF Bay Area
Quote:
Just goes to show that the root of happiness is piness.


I laughed out loud, I really did.
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If I know only one thing it's that everything that I see
Of the world outside is so inconceivable often I barely can speak
Yeah I'm tongue-tied and dizzy and I can't keep it to myself
What good is it to sing Helplessness Blues, why should I wait for anyone else?

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