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#467371 - 07/08/14 02:54 AM Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK
tbkkfile Offline


Registered: 09/16/13
Posts: 168
Loc: Surrey, United Kingdom
Hi All

It seems over here in the UK that we've had a constant barrage of media reporting on CSA for the last year, trials of various celebrities, government cover ups, speculation, government statement after statement, it seems non stop.

Every time I turn on the TV, read a newspaper, turn on the radio I'm reminded. My healing has turned to crap, I'm triggered daily and find myself retreating on occasions back to where I was before I sought help.

We get warnings that "the next news item contains flash photography" and then launches into the latest abuse allegation, with specific details about age, where, what etc.

It's truly crap
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#467374 - 07/08/14 05:06 AM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
Jacob S Offline
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Registered: 01/01/13
Posts: 594
Take care of yourself.

The news can be overwhelming.

Maybe take a break from the news.

Read some fiction instead for a while.

It will still be there when you get back.
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just stay alive.
do whatever you need to.
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#467375 - 07/08/14 05:08 AM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
don64 Offline
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Registered: 10/09/13
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Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi Tbkkfile,

I quit reading news, got rid of television, and don't listen to news on the radio several years ago. If there is something in particular I want to know I can always go online. But, I find my entire process of searching for myself has dramatically more time and space since I left the world of sensationalism. And, my experience is whatever information I really need just seems to come to me. I would be in constant hysterics if I moved back into fear-based news coverage. Not going to happen for me.

Don
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#467394 - 07/08/14 04:20 PM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1513
Loc: New England
Its a two edged sword. More media coverage means the abuse of children is finally getting the public's attention, and that some of these pedophiles are finally having to face justice for their crimes against children. In other words it means somebody gives a shit. Nobody did when I was getting molested.

At the same time it IS overwhelming for people like us. From time to time I go to Google News, and search "childhood sex abuse" (not reccomended). The volume of news articles from all over the world is shocking and painful to see.

The only answer is to limit your exposure to media. There's only so much a guy can take.

Jude
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#467395 - 07/08/14 04:25 PM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
NoSimpleMachine Offline


Registered: 06/05/14
Posts: 79
Loc: SF Bay Area
Agree with Jude...glad it's being discussed, it sure beats having it just hidden under the surface like it so often is. But tough to face. Unplugging from media and news sources that cover it will help...maybe set up a news aggregator for yourself through iGoogle or something that focuses on topics and news you want to hear that aren't full of CSA stories?
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#467404 - 07/08/14 07:47 PM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
Rustam Offline
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Registered: 10/27/04
Posts: 470
Loc: UK
The media coverage has been non-stop for months now, I don't remember csa ever having such a high profile in public life here, it is great that so much is coming out and that abuse perpetrated up to forty years ago is seeing the abusers going to prison. Because of the fame of the abusers everyone at work or socially are talking about child abuse. It is very hard to avoid the subject here right now.

But like you I find it too triggering at times, I still want to know what is happening so I am getting most of my news from the radio, at least that way I don't have to see the abusers on TV or in the papers. It is hard to avoid but I guess as others have said protect yourself as best you can.

Even without the media saturation the healing journey can feel crap at times and we can feel back to square one, but it will improve again one step forward, two steps...........

Take care.

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#467409 - 07/08/14 09:52 PM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
NoSimpleMachine Offline


Registered: 06/05/14
Posts: 79
Loc: SF Bay Area
Yeah...I just read this article from a local Rhode Island paper about how the police there are stepping up their anti-child pornography efforts...using dogs to sniff out hidden thumb drives/hard drives/etc. that might have child pornography on them, and being pretty successful (they claim). It was good to read that. But the comments, lord...everyone minimizing how prevalent sexual abuse for children is, everyone saying it's a waste of money, posting links to websites that claim to educate about child sexual abuse but are frankly just abuse apologist sites...really made me pretty mad.

But I've seen a lot more articles lately and having the commenters so unanimously thick about CSA was the exception to the rule. Usually it's at least 50/50 of people who are getting it pretty well, which is heartening.
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#467413 - 07/09/14 02:47 AM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
tbkkfile Offline


Registered: 09/16/13
Posts: 168
Loc: Surrey, United Kingdom
Your all correct of course about CSA having such a high profile at the moment and it being a good thing in that respect, I was just on a downer yesterday not helped by the constant exposure to it.

It's hard though, as Rustam says one step forward two back, one of my gripes though is that we are warned that "The next article has flash photography" but are not warned that the next article contains items that may trigger. I try and want to lead a normal life, let me rephrase that we all deserve to lead a normal life, this isn't our fault, we are not to blame but it's hard being normal at the moment.
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Go back?" he thought. "No good at all! Go sideways? Impossible! Go forward? Only thing to do! On we go!" So up he got, and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him and one hand feeling the wall, and his heart all of a patter and a pitter

J.R.R.Tolkien, The Hobbit

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#467418 - 07/09/14 10:50 AM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
Chase Eric Offline
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Registered: 10/25/10
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I try to make sense of the media circus, too. It was similar here in the states with the Sandusky story. It seems a paradox that so many can purposely look away and not see this stuff (think church, BSA, Penn State and even my own experience), yet the media goes on the occasional binge in the opposite direction, perhaps banking on the idea that people in fact do want to see it.

Part of it I suspect is this seemingly insatiable appetite people have to see others suffer and pay - that others have lives even more sorry than the lives of the readers. I'm only speculating, but I find the contradictions compelling.

It begs the question: where the hell were these smug, sanctimonious people when my sister and I (and so many others) were being molested? On one hand, these stories are mere cheap and sensationalized entertainment that I suspect fulfills the reader with a relatively enhanced sense of propriety. On the other hand, if that's the way these stories get out, then so be it. Triggers trump secrets as far as I'm concerned. If exposing someone saves present and future victims at the expense of my discomfort, then so be it, regardless of however unctuous and self-serving the intent of the media is.
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#467511 - 07/12/14 05:48 AM Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK [Re: tbkkfile]
dark empathy Offline
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Registered: 11/26/07
Posts: 1963
Loc: durham, north england
My problem with all these stories is that they're one sided and severely lacking. They're always about the creepy old men and the beautiful, innocent young girls. Very occasionally it's boys, but only as an after thought.

That's what tends to piss me off, it's more grist to the sexist mill. Usually I just ignore it, then again my chosen news outlet is usually the news on classic fm who tend to be much breifer on their coverage of such sensationalist stuff, as compared to bbc, itv etc.

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