I am sorry for your reason to be here, but glad for you have returned to MS.
I am sorry that I cannot offer you any names of therapists in NYC.
However, on the man page of the Malesurvivor website, there is a link to locate a therapist. see link to the main page, and look in the upper right of the screen.http://www.malesurvivor.org/resource-directory.php
I never told my parents either, I was 8 yrs old when I suffered the abuse, and still haven't told them and I am 48.
I don't see that I have anything to gain from doing so.
Who I choose to disclose to is based entirely on my need for support, and those in my life whom I believe would offer support.
It is a very small circle of people who know of the abuse I suffered.
You sound like you have questions at least, and perhaps anger toward them for placing you in harms way.
That is certainly where some of my real feelings lie.
Ultimately I think you need to do what helps you most in your recovery.
Please reject the idea of revenge, this can only lead to more harm for you.
Pursuing charges can be cathartic, as I have read from some who have done so, but also emotionally difficult and not always successful.
You may need to decide what is most important to you.
I never knew the man who abused me, so pursuing charges was a non starter.
If I knew who it was, I think I would pursue charges, to give me peace of mind that he was no longer able to harm any other children.
My motivation would be one of being a protector.
I hope you can find the help and support you need.
Keep well and take care.