It sounds like therapy might help. At least worth a try. Sounds like you guys are in a tough spot. Talking about it with a therapist could help. Hope it does. Single or dual, start with whichever you guys are more comfortable with.
Like a spent gladiator
crawling in the colosseum dust
who can count on his remaining limbs
all the people he can trust.
Like the one who stands behind him
cheering him on
Estatic when he stands defiant,
wild with abandon when he's gone
just stay alive.
do whatever you need to.
you are worth it.