When my childhood trauma first bubbled to the surface, I was not handling it well. I was lucky my director of operations was a psych-major in college and realized how prized my security clearance was, I had a Top Secret SCI - NATO COSMIC. He realized what going to military mental health would do to that security clearance. We were able to keep my abuse off the books until I went for another assignment. Everything was fine until the in person interview began. The questions changed, when I enlisted the question was are you a homosexual. I could answer that question, no. The new question in 88 was have you ever performed a homosexual act. That question had to be given a conditional, yes. I was hooked up to a polygraph at the time. I explained my abuse to the investigator who documented it in great gory detail, I hate the DIS (Defense Investigative Service). The DIS investigator (Special Agent Swenson, yes I remember that son of a bitch) actually did try to make me admit to being homosexual. He read me my rights under the Uniform Code of Military Justice. He also accused me of fraudulent enlistment. It was a 6 hour interrogation, that was ultimately stopped by my director of operations and my commanding officer. The end result, I kept my security clearance, but did not get the assignment I was hoping for.
I also understand being able to put on an affable facade so the world can see nothing but the surface. It reminded me of the amazingly beautiful facelifts that some of the buildings in East Berlin had. Just under those remarkable facades were the bullet holes and scars from World War 2. I could identify with those buildings very much. Beautiful to the eye but just under the surface, the deadly reality.
Remember you were not at fault for your abuse. You are not alone. It was a run of four days of flashbacks and nightmares that brought me to MS, and back to counseling. I had to remember temporary setbacks happen, how I respond to them is all me.
We all heal in our own time. I am 20+ years into my healing journey and still learning. Be well my brother.
Edited by I Want 2 Thrive (04/28/14 08:57 AM)
Edit Reason: typos, BLOODY SPEECH RECOGNITION!
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind" C.S. Lewis
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