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#464246 - 04/18/14 04:55 PM coping
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3319
Loc: back in the USA
i am the champion of coping mechanisms:

i am the epitome of denial
"Nothing happened. I am fine!"

i am a paradigm of dissociation
"I wasn't even there. That wasn't me."

i am adept at amnesia
"Abuse? What abuse?"

i am a master of minimizing
"It wasn't really that bad."

i am a virtuoso at justification
"Well, they couldn't really help it because..."

i am an expert at excuses
"I can't deal with it now because I'm too busy."

i am the ace of avoidance
"That reminds me, have you heard about...?"

i am foremost at fantasy
"Let's do another roleplaying game."

i am head honcho of hiding
"If i say and do nothing, then no one will notice."

i am a star at distraction
"I have to see, hear, try the latest everything!"

i am a wizard of repression
"It was a long time ago. Let sleeping dogs lie."

i am nonpareil at numbing
"Give me another one. There's no such thing as too much."

i am king of isolation
"I am a rock. I am an island. And a rock feels no pain."

i am the paragon of overcompensation
"Look: all A's! I got a raise! Another promotion!"

i am a pro at perfectionism
"I just have to get this right before i can rest."

i am a failure at all of the above.
"Eventually, they all stop working."

lee
04/18/14
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We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9

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#464248 - 04/18/14 07:04 PM Re: coping [Re: traveler]
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Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 747
Loc: michigan
hey my friend
you got it all just right except for one thing ... you are not alone.
Good writing man keep it up
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Towards thee I roll, thou all-destroying but unconquering whale; to the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee; for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee. let me then tow to pieces, while still chasing thee, thou damned whale! Thus, I give up the spear!"
Herman Melville

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#464249 - 04/18/14 08:23 PM Re: coping [Re: newground]
I Want 2 Thrive Offline
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Registered: 04/04/14
Posts: 79
Loc: Florida, U.S.A
Originally Posted By: newground
hey my friend
you got it all just right except for one thing ... you are not alone.
Good writing man keep it up


What ^he^ said. I may be new but, we are all here...
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Izzy

"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind" C.S. Lewis
My Story: Short / Long version. *TRIGGERS*

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#464274 - 04/19/14 01:53 PM Re: coping [Re: traveler]
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3319
Loc: back in the USA
thanks, guys.

i wrote this recently while working through a 12-step program and taking a moral inventory, in an attempt to take responsibility for my own actions and reactions.

i guess i should add that most of the tactics i have abandoned as ineffective for an adult, though they helped me survive as a child and until i was ready to grow up emotionally.

but i still revert to minimizing, rationalizing and isolating, if i am not careful.

thanks for the reminder that i am not alone. that is one of the best things about being here at MS.

lee
_________________________
We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9

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