I see you group as S squared--supporter and survivor. If it was not for people like you and other kind and generous people many of us would not have our lives back and a future to live. Without people like you and those I have met many of us would not be here today or have a life worth living. I believe once we have someone or many who support, listen, give and take care of themselves do we heal. We flounder without this support.
You are so right, talking and not telling is so important. If I ever hear I am telling you this is the way it is--it will be too soon. It is nice to talk how we feel, how we hurt, to listen and hear their view without everyone else being brought into the discussion-either physically or through constant reference. Keep talking, it is healing, but also keep listening and this applies to everyone.
Thank you for have been there for someone and encouraging others to travel the path.