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#464250 - Yesterday at 08:42 PM Thank you Honey for not giving up on me :-)
learning2luvme Offline

Registered: 06/12/12
Posts: 30 know who you are....I just wanted to
1. Thank you for standing by me when nothing in the world made sense.
2. Thank you for allowing me adequate room to heal as I needed to heal.
3. Thank you for respecting my privacy when I needed it.
4. Thank you for not giving up on me when I had given up on myself.
5. Thank you for adopting many of my friends that have similar issues and problems. Thank you for loving them like you do me.
6. Thank you for making me feel as normal as possible despite my issues.
7. Thank you for holding my hand and talking to me when I disassociate....even when I do it in public sometimes and it isn't always convenient.
8. Thank you for forgiving me when I was making bad choices in an attempt to define who I was and what was robbed from me.
9. Thank you for driving me to my EMDR appointments and encouraging me to stick with therapy when I didn't want to continue.
10. Thank you for holding me like you do after a bad nightmare or flashback.
11. Thank you for being wise enough to confiscate my handgun even when I felt I could handle it.
12. Thank you for enduring my mood swings and fits of depression.
13. Thank you for protecting me from the outside world when I needed protection.
14. Thank you for providing such a great smile to have smiling back at me.
15. Thank you for being the amazing mother of my three amazing daughters.
16. Thank you for listening when I was ready to speak.
17. Thank you for being the amazing wife and partner that you are.
18. Thank you for giving me time to find meaningful intimacy again.
19. Thank you for letting me pursue my musical passions.
20. Thank you for not making me feel less than human when I struggle some days just to live.
21. Thank you for accepting what happened to me and being willing to take upon all the baggage that comes with being married to a survivor.
22. Thank you for carrying me when I couldn't walk.
23. Thank you for unconditionally loving me.
24. Thank you for wanting to spend the rest of your life with me.
25. Thank you for the little notes you hide in my briefcase and luggage telling me how much you love me and how special I am.
26. Thank you for letting me ground myself using your favorite perfume.
27. Thank you for letting me be little spoon even though I am much bigger than you.
28. Thank you for all the times I interrupted our lives because a trigger had set me off.
29. Thank you for the endless hugs and words of encouragement.
30. Thank you for accepting me as me.
31. Thank you for letting me help other survivors to become thrivers too.
32. Thank you for encouraging me to cry and to let it all out after keeping silent for 35 years.
33. Thank you for trusting me again when I had violated your trust while trying to cope and determine who I really am.
34. Thank you for letting me have more closet space than I am suppose to have.
35. Thank you for almost 22 years of the most amazing journey we have had thus far as a married couple.
36. Thank you for being you...the most amazing woman in the world and lucky for best friend....FOREVER.

I love you Joy.


#464271 - Today at 12:13 PM Re: Thank you Honey for not giving up on me :-) [Re: learning2luvme]
I Want 2 Thrive Offline

Registered: 04/04/14
Posts: 36
Loc: Florida, U.S.A
Originally Posted By: learning2luvme

27. Thank you for letting me be little spoon even though I am much bigger than you.

I thought I was the only one who liked 27. It is a very comforting position. Although in the case of my wife and I, I have the image of a chihuahua cuddling a saint bernard.

In total, well said sir, well said.

After 40 years of just living with it, I am "ready to thrive"
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind" C.S. Lewis

#464272 - Today at 01:32 PM Re: Thank you Honey for not giving up on me :-) [Re: learning2luvme]
Cam76 Offline

Registered: 06/25/13
Posts: 6
Thanks for posting this. I often feel that nothing I do as a spouse of a CSA survivor is enough to be of any help. It's nice to see that some of the things I can do can make a difference.


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