Mo, you're wife is wise. Sure hits the nail right on my
What I have, I think, could be labeled "Attention
Displacement Disorder" = a problem with keeping my attention focused in the wrong places instead of on the right things.
Well, that's all we need--another disorder!
survivors learn to increase thier attention to alarmingly high levels,to anything not going on around them in order to distract them.
Key word alarm, flight, fight or freeze response.
Attention radar set for anything threatening, but not for the good things in life. To distract us from our pain. Becuz we haven't always seen much of the good things in life.
But knowing about my "Attention Displacement Disorder," admitting it, helps. As does having an understanding wife, as you do, and other supportive persons who understand & care.
The kinds of people and things we really want
to place our attention on...