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#463089 - 03/24/14 04:17 PM Isolating
innervoice Offline

Registered: 03/23/14
Posts: 3
Loc: NY
I'm new to the site. I pushed myself to join as I dont discuss this with anyone except my therapist. I have a great relationship with my spouse and good friends but its just not something I understand how to share. They know of my past but not what I've gone through. So, I'm looking to connect with others along my journey.

#463127 - 03/25/14 12:36 PM Re: Isolating [Re: innervoice]
FormerTexan Offline
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Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 11244
Loc: Denver, CO
Welcome to Malesurvivor, innervoice. We hope you find this site a valuable resource in pursuing your recovery.
List of things ain't nobody got time for:

1. That

If I could meet myself as a boy...

#463133 - 03/25/14 01:37 PM Re: Isolating [Re: innervoice]
JayBro Offline

Registered: 11/13/12
Posts: 271
Loc: Germany
You've come to the right place!! A very warm welcome to you!
,,Nun ging es immerzu, weit, weit bis an der Welt Ende."

#463137 - 03/25/14 01:45 PM Re: Isolating [Re: innervoice]
Tiger1982 Offline

Registered: 01/31/14
Posts: 26
Loc: Slovakia
Hello, friend and welcome to the MS forum.

Let me congratulate you for joining this community, I'm sure it will help you on your journey of recovery. You are very brave to introduce yourself here smile . Take your time and explore this site at your own pace. If you feel so, share as much of your feelings, experiences, ideas as you feel comfortable with. Here on this site you will find acceptance and understanding, we're all on the same boat and since we all share very similar feelings, we can all relate to how you feel...

Be kind to yourself, you deserve the best wink

Out of the dark, into the light.

#463158 - 03/25/14 03:50 PM Re: Isolating [Re: innervoice]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1600
Loc: New England
Hi IV,

Your post caught my eye because isolating was one of my major means of coping with what happened to me. But anyway, welcome to MS.

The good news is that you suddenly are connected to 12,000 guys who "get it", won't judge you, and are behind you 100%.

Unfortunatley, you already know what the bad news is.

Be well,

Seems I've got to have a change of scene
Every night I have the strangest dreams
Imprisoned by the way it could have been
Left here on my own or so it seems
I've got to leave before I start to scream
Joe Cocker

#463172 - 03/25/14 09:23 PM Re: Isolating [Re: innervoice]
Landscape Offline

Registered: 01/31/14
Posts: 47
Welcome to MS. Reading and participating here helps me understand a little more about myself every day. I hope it does the same for you.

While our stories are all different, as Jude said, we "get it." We are all on this journey together, and there are many friends here who will walk with you as you find your unique path to recovery.
"And there was a kid with a head full of doubt
So I'll scream 'til I die and the last of those bad thoughts are finally out"

#463204 - 03/26/14 10:01 AM Re: Isolating [Re: innervoice]
Adam A Gedman Offline

Registered: 08/12/13
Posts: 188
Loc: Canada
Hey Innervoice,

I am sorry for your reason to be here, but glad for you to have found MS.

Your post about isolating is an unfortunate and common response from those of us who were abused.
I see it now as simply as the way we needed to be in order to feel safe.
It's a big bad world out there to survivors of abuse, there are perpetrators and potential perpetrators, at least that is how I saw it for so long.
So isolating myself from the world was a way that I kept myself from potential harm.
The other unfortunate part to this, is that isolating also kept us from living life as full as it could be.

There is a great deal of healing in sharing our story, and being understood, and supported.

Welcome, take your time, and when you are ready, speak your truth, and the community will be here to support you.

Keep Well
Presence is the key, for all we have is now.
All we ever have is right now.

Formerly Adam A Gedman (AKA - A damAGed man)

But you can call me Kevin

Toronto Mini WoR - May 2014

#463669 - 04/04/14 05:31 PM Re: Isolating [Re: innervoice]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3986
Loc: O Kanada
welcome, innervoice.

hope you find the connection you seek.

we are all on the journey together.



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